"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do I stop caring?

NFC

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So me and my gf have been having problems lately.. (we've both been kind of ignoring each other) and she messaged me on myspace friday and asked me "What's going on between us?" and I just basically told her straight up that I didn't feel like I've been getting the time I deserve, and that I'm always persueing.. and she never makes an attempt to see me. I logged on today and I know she saw it, it went from "sent" to "read" but she never replied back. So idk what the deal is.. I feel like she doesn't give a ****. To an extent, I don't give a **** either.. but there's still a part of me that wants/wanted(?) it to work. How do I just stop caring? I'm tired of her having such a hold on my thoughts.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NFC said:
So me and my gf have been having problems lately.. (we've both been kind of ignoring each other) and she messaged me on myspace friday and asked me "What's going on between us?" and I just basically told her straight up that I didn't feel like I've been getting the time I deserve, and that I'm always persueing.. and she never makes an attempt to see me. I logged on today and I know she saw it, it went from "sent" to "read" but she never replied back. So idk what the deal is.. I feel like she doesn't give a ****. To an extent, I don't give a **** either.. but there's still a part of me that wants/wanted(?) it to work. How do I just stop caring? I'm tired of her having such a hold on my thoughts.

Hey dude sorry to hear that. I had a similiar situation happen to me not too long ago that is why I am here on this site.


U must face the facts she probably only like u as a friend. What u need to do to get over her is keep active, join a healthclub, take martial art.

If u start to look better u will feel better. The best remedy is to hook up with other girls.'


Best of luck to you dude.
 

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picture her getting fvcked right now by some other dude.. which is probably whats happening...

if that doesnt stop you from caring i dont know what will... and good luck!
 

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NFC said:
.... I feel like she doesn't give a ****. To an extent, I don't give a **** either.. but there's still a part of me that wants/wanted(?) it to work. How do I just stop caring? I'm tired of her having such a hold on my thoughts.
Not caring isn't going to get you out of your situation. Of course you want it to work but look around you, you guys can't even communicate with each other directly. Neither one of you are putting forth any effort to make things work so why waste energy as if you two are in a relationship? Quit trying to avoid the situation by attempting not to care about it, get up and do something!
 
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