"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How Do I Respond To "I love you"?

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I've met this girl a few months now and she's hinted a lot that she's "falling for" me, and phrases like that.
I'm pretty sure soon she's gonna tell me she loves me, and although I feel that also, (I'm pretty one-itis tbh) I don't know what the best way to react would be.
I think she has a feeling I love her too, but I've never said that, but she's shown it more than me with things she has said.
If she does say this to me I don't want it to be awkward, and I don't want to just make her feel like she has won me and doesn't need to try anymore.

Will I just say it back straight away, or just ignore and kiss her. I have no idea how to respond if this was to come up...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yewki

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With a smile, "You're not so bad yourself"

If she keeps pressing you for an answer, act like it's uninteresting and be more curious why she cares so much.
 

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Please on behalf of every guy who has ever been or ever will be friendzoned.

Tell her "Let's just be friends."
 

Yewki

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Albatross953 said:
Please on behalf of every guy who has ever been or ever will be friendzoned.

Tell her "Let's just be f**k friends."
FIFY
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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CrimsonPanther

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being a guy that rarely says ILY, my response is to simply kiss her when she says it. seems effective.
 

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Albatross953 said:
Please on behalf of every guy who has ever been or ever will be friendzoned.

Tell her "Let's just be friends."
:crackup:
 

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Say "I care for you but I'm not sure if I still believe in love. I've been hurt "

Makes you a challenge because now she must "prove love exists"

Creates mystery which in turn sends her interest level through the roof.

Note: Nothings wrong with saying Ily, but I would make sure these conditions are met
1. She says if first
2. You've spent a decent amount of time together
3. You're aware of the emotional attachment these words hold
4. She's high enough quality
5. Number 3 ×'s 2
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If a girl tells me ILY and it makes sense i'll say ILY back. To me it really means something if I say it of my own accord. So in reply it's more a courtesy to me lol. It really is a relative term if you think about it. 1 year love is really not the same thing as 10 year love.
 
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