How do I respond to compliments from girls....

[Bloke]

This thread p*sses me off. I dislike these robots who need confirmation for everything they do in life, pretty sad

 

[Bloke]

Originally posted by Dr Box
note: I am not trying to flame the guy who started this thread nor am I saying questions should not be asked I am just saying guys should learn to use their mind more and canned responses less.....I mean come on...."how do I accept compliments????" if you dfont know how to accept compliments you have more issues then lack of women.

I agree entirely with your post.

I sometimes wonder maybe the forum should be closed down & simply have the DJ Bible... But that would not be fair to those who have actual difficult situation & need assistance

 

[FM 3321]

Originally posted by Bloke
This thread p*sses me off. I dislike these robots who need confirmation for everything they do in life, pretty sad

It's good that you dislike robots that need conformation for eveything they do in life. If I made a thread asking which side to get out of bed in the morning that would be pretty sad as well.

 

[FM 3321]

Originally posted by Dr Box
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Becoming a DJ is about improving yourself to be more attractive to women not learning a whole heap of canned responses to throw at them every time they say something, as all that will do is build initial attraction but after they have seen you a couple of times they will realise you have nothing good to say. Sometimes I think this forum creates robots not DJ's.

note: I am not trying to flame the guy who started this thread nor am I saying questions should not be asked I am just saying guys should learn to use their mind more and canned responses less.....I mean come on...."how do I accept compliments????" if you dfont know how to accept compliments you have more issues then lack of women.

Makes sense, I'll keep that in mind.


Also thanks to everyone that posted in this thread. Most of this is common sense if you've interacted with people long enough but overthinking something can run you into some confusion.

 

[SynapsyS]

Some girl I was talking to the other day said "You know, I LOVE your eyes!"

I backed away slightly and said "Hey hey hey, NOT for sale!"

She laughed pretty hard, and i followed up by saying "anyway, thank you" and how lots of people comment on my eyes etc.

What people are missing here is that a reply doesn't have to be a single statement.

If you notice, I "deflected" the compliment with a funny remark, then followed up by sincerely accepting it, then being a little ****y as well.

3 stages. You can't have a single reply which acheives all the things you get from a 3 stage reply.

Syn.

 

[Mr. Cardio]

just be the dominant male my friend, its in your body language, whatever else you say or want to say, means nothing, hell if she compliments you fvck it, say something AFC is you want, you gives a fvck, as long as you dont lose your dominant stature, you are fine, but if you lose it, you are up a creek with no paddle, aint that how it goes.

 

[SynapsyS]

Originally posted by Mr. Cardio
just be the dominant male my friend, its in your body language, whatever else you say or want to say, means nothing, hell if she compliments you fvck it, say something AFC is you want, you gives a fvck, as long as you dont lose your dominant stature, you are fine, but if you lose it, you are up a creek with no paddle, aint that how it goes.

Is it just me, or is every post you make basically saying "Be the dominant male"?

There is more to it than that. Try offering some more varied advice

Syn.

 

[snintel]

You just gotta maintain congruency with C&F.

Her: YOu have amazing eyes!
You: Yeah, props to my parents. Great genes. Keep up the good work.

Her: You're so funny!
You: Yeah, but the funniness is just part of the overall package of greatness you get with me.

 

[FM 3321]

Originally posted by SynapsyS
Some girl I was talking to the other day said "You know, I LOVE your eyes!"

I backed away slightly and said "Hey hey hey, NOT for sale!"

She laughed pretty hard, and i followed up by saying "anyway, thank you" and how lots of people comment on my eyes etc.

What people are missing here is that a reply doesn't have to be a single statement.

If you notice, I "deflected" the compliment with a funny remark, then followed up by sincerely accepting it, then being a little ****y as well.

3 stages. You can't have a single reply which acheives all the things you get from a 3 stage reply.

Syn.

LOL....that was pretty good. It seems to boil down to showing that you value yourself and can convey it in a way that makes her laugh. I have a feeling that the previous statement encompasses a large part of dealing with women effectively and has been reiterated many times over.

 

[Soprano]

Her: wow you smell great, you have a great smile, i want to have your children, etc...
Response: I know, thanks

That's my favorite response to your average everyday comments. Just keep it simple.

If it's a compliment that you can work off of though, then you might wanna do a little improvising of course...

Her: That's a nice shirt/pair of pants/etc., where did you get it?
Response: Why, do you like to dress up in the opposite sex's clothes when nobody's around too?

 

[Vibe]

For all those people who are naysaying this post, I am forced to disagree. I went through most of my life not knowing how to accept a compliment. They made me extremely uncomfortable. It took this site to give me the self confidence to be able to deal with them and understand that it's okay to receive compliments. In fact, in his book, Style mentions that he spent a very long time trying to figure out exactly what the best response. I've paraphrased his thoughts below.

Often, the best response is "thank you." This is because it shows the most self confidence. If you say a C/F answer, you risk coming off as too ****y and if you deflect it, you risk coming off as insecure. Compliments aren't really the same animal as other comments so when you give it the C/F it doesn't always come off as "cute."

Of course there are exceptions and I think SynapsyS gave some good examples of that.

~Vibe~

 

[Warrior Princess]

I'm a female and my advice to you is to just smile and bow your head, don't comment. Show your feelings but also show humility. Otherwise, you'll come off as arrogant and annoying.

For instance, I told one guy "I love the way you smile" and the dude was like "I know right" so I said "I take that back" lol.

 

[chancer]

Originally posted by Dr Box
If one of my friends called me for that reason I would tell them to get stuffed, if I wwas an AFC then I would do it. So therefore my response is No.

I don't know about you, but my homies and I are tight. If I was stranded and needed a ride, one or them would be there to pick me up, and I would do the same. As for the girl... heh... diff story

 

[SynapsyS]

Often, the best response is "thank you." This is because it shows the most self confidence. If you say a C/F answer, you risk coming off as too ****y and if you deflect it, you risk coming off as insecure. Compliments aren't really the same animal as other comments so when you give it the C/F it doesn't always come off as "cute."

This guy is right.

Of course there are exceptions

And again

You have to really use a bit of intuition and instinct. Your best bet is to try responding in different ways. The response you get will depend on;

- The type of person you are
- The type of person SHE is
- The situation
- The compliment.

I can USUALLY get away with a BIT of C/F in my responses, because people know i don't take ANYTHING seriously, so joking around with compliments suits me. Obviously, as I already said, you still have to accept the compliment sincerely, but you can still throw in as much C/F as YOU THINK YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH.

The girl is important too. If she's a shy type, and she's genuinely complimenting you, being a tab arrogant will SERIOUSLY back fire on you. If she's like the girls I enjoy dating, then they're always playing around, and most compliments are half jokes anyway.

So, if you're not sure, just say thanks and move on. But, if you know yourself, and the girl, pretty well, then judge it, and apply ONLY AS MUCH C/F AS YOU THINK YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH.

As with everything though, trial and error will also work a lot. Nothing like a failure to beat some sense into you

Syn.

 

[Dr Box]

Originally posted by chancer
I don't know about you, but my homies and I are tight. If I was stranded and needed a ride, one or them would be there to pick me up, and I would do the same. As for the girl... heh... diff story

Yeah I would do a lot for my mates but I was trying to get a point across, perhaps I should have said it differently, how bout I say if they werent stranded and were just being lazy pricks.

 

[Vibe]

I get complimented on my eyes pretty much all the time. I used to get embarassed and not know what to say. One day, out of nowhere, I came up with the response "Thanks, they're Gucci." Everyone seems to love that one.

Just thought I'd throw that out there.

~Vibe~

 

[seanchai]

Originally posted by Vibe
I get complimented on my eyes pretty much all the time. I used to get embarassed and not know what to say. One day, out of nowhere, I came up with the response "Thanks, they're Gucci." Everyone seems to love that one.

Just thought I'd throw that out there.

~Vibe~

HAHAHAHAHAHA

That's the best line I've read here in a long time.