Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
brekke said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
But she will - Women only have one game and they play it over and over. When it brings her unstuck she blames "losers" and "committmentphobic men'.brekke said:
no one can give you much advice as you have given us hardly any information,brekke said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
that is correct. Did you know that borderline females and especially BPD males are considered irrisistable to the opposite sex in psychology ? the main reason for that is their NATURAL push/pull approach to saducing their victims.
I won't apologize. She actually apologized to me in that email, and I don't really know what I could ask her to do...but that is a good idea.terran2k said:
Yay for me, because I am weird like that.Acq said:
my longest relationship lasted for 7 years (Im 32 now) and Im a very average guy while she was a 8.5. She was mine for 100% thanks to the pull/push game which lasted for as long as our relationship did. Once I kicked her out of my house for two months and she went to live with her parents, she would constantly SMS/email me about how she wants me back. It was awesome, full control.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I probably was hurt by her. I can get emotional sometimes, but I get over it quickly. She knows I do not care at this point. I don't think it was a sh!t test really, but she is just very guarded and afraid of being hurt, so she lies sometimes. But thanks for your good advice on this. When we talk it will be neutral from my side from now on, if we talk. She is trying to make herself available to me a lot, so maybe I will.r0cky said: