You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
brekke said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
But she will - Women only have one game and they play it over and over. When it brings her unstuck she blames "losers" and "committmentphobic men'.brekke said:
no one can give you much advice as you have given us hardly any information,brekke said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
that is correct. Did you know that borderline females and especially BPD males are considered irrisistable to the opposite sex in psychology ? the main reason for that is their NATURAL push/pull approach to saducing their victims.
I won't apologize. She actually apologized to me in that email, and I don't really know what I could ask her to do...but that is a good idea.terran2k said:
Yay for me, because I am weird like that.Acq said:
my longest relationship lasted for 7 years (Im 32 now) and Im a very average guy while she was a 8.5. She was mine for 100% thanks to the pull/push game which lasted for as long as our relationship did. Once I kicked her out of my house for two months and she went to live with her parents, she would constantly SMS/email me about how she wants me back. It was awesome, full control.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I probably was hurt by her. I can get emotional sometimes, but I get over it quickly. She knows I do not care at this point. I don't think it was a sh!t test really, but she is just very guarded and afraid of being hurt, so she lies sometimes. But thanks for your good advice on this. When we talk it will be neutral from my side from now on, if we talk. She is trying to make herself available to me a lot, so maybe I will.r0cky said: