"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How Do I Re-Ignite Buying Temperature??

freshstartin2008

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OK, this is a bit of a long post, so please hold tight, as I believe it will help me achieve a breakthrough...

I have a casual summer job which happens to have quite a few pretty girls working there as well. Nice! I'd say two or three have taken a VERY strong liking to me.

Girl #1: Gorgeous curves, and a very vivacious bubbly personality. I am clearly her type. We got off work at the same time, and I've not made a move on her after work. However, she has DEFINITELY made the moves on me. If I leave before she does, she will RUN after me, screaming my name, and telling me to wait for her. When she catches up with me, she will kino me by rubbing her body against mine.

She has isolated me like this with kino at least three or four times. In the last couple days at work however, she seems to be growing distant. Not unfriendly, but there's no "heat" or "spark" between us. She'll speak to me, of course, but without the crazy IOI's she was giving me before.

My guess: she was giving me multiple chances to number close her or just take her on a date or home and I basically was too ignorant or nonchalant to do so, then gave up after pursuing me so hard and feeling I wasn't willing to make the investment. Do you agree? If so, how do I re-heat this budding relationship?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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slickaz

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how about this.

Hey..what you doing on friday night?
I want to luminate my evening with your company, dinner and some interesting stuff to follow? say 8? i wanna get to know you outside of work..wink wink nudge nudge..lol

dude its not hard to ask a girl out on a date if shes acting like that towards you! Gosh!! if i was there and curvy gorgeous girl with a bubbly personality was touchin me id take her home straight after work!..GET TO WORK!!!..lol good luck..and oh

ask her out NOW! coz if you put it off any longer..she'll lose interest..
 

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learn the concept of windows of opportunity. the girl will give you a window in which to escalate. if you escalate too early, the window never opened and you lose value because you come across desperate and uncalibrated. if you don't do anything, the window shuts and you lose attraction because you've subcommunicating you're either uninterested or too scared to know what to do (<-- AFC behavior)

it's a long shot but you basically need to deanchor her image of you, then pump up BT again from the very beginning. you do this by cutting off contact for a week or so and then regame her with solid game, always leading. but honestly, you're doing twice as much work - it's better to not have fvcked up to begin with
 
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