"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How Do I Re-Ignite Buying Temperature??

freshstartin2008

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OK, this is a bit of a long post, so please hold tight, as I believe it will help me achieve a breakthrough...

I have a casual summer job which happens to have quite a few pretty girls working there as well. Nice! I'd say two or three have taken a VERY strong liking to me.

Girl #1: Gorgeous curves, and a very vivacious bubbly personality. I am clearly her type. We got off work at the same time, and I've not made a move on her after work. However, she has DEFINITELY made the moves on me. If I leave before she does, she will RUN after me, screaming my name, and telling me to wait for her. When she catches up with me, she will kino me by rubbing her body against mine.

She has isolated me like this with kino at least three or four times. In the last couple days at work however, she seems to be growing distant. Not unfriendly, but there's no "heat" or "spark" between us. She'll speak to me, of course, but without the crazy IOI's she was giving me before.

My guess: she was giving me multiple chances to number close her or just take her on a date or home and I basically was too ignorant or nonchalant to do so, then gave up after pursuing me so hard and feeling I wasn't willing to make the investment. Do you agree? If so, how do I re-heat this budding relationship?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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slickaz

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how about this.

Hey..what you doing on friday night?
I want to luminate my evening with your company, dinner and some interesting stuff to follow? say 8? i wanna get to know you outside of work..wink wink nudge nudge..lol

dude its not hard to ask a girl out on a date if shes acting like that towards you! Gosh!! if i was there and curvy gorgeous girl with a bubbly personality was touchin me id take her home straight after work!..GET TO WORK!!!..lol good luck..and oh

ask her out NOW! coz if you put it off any longer..she'll lose interest..
 

ready123

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learn the concept of windows of opportunity. the girl will give you a window in which to escalate. if you escalate too early, the window never opened and you lose value because you come across desperate and uncalibrated. if you don't do anything, the window shuts and you lose attraction because you've subcommunicating you're either uninterested or too scared to know what to do (<-- AFC behavior)

it's a long shot but you basically need to deanchor her image of you, then pump up BT again from the very beginning. you do this by cutting off contact for a week or so and then regame her with solid game, always leading. but honestly, you're doing twice as much work - it's better to not have fvcked up to begin with
 
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