This girl that I met last week and who I've been seeing and going out with...I called her last night and she was like "I'm busy right now, can I call you back" so I was like Okay... so she calls me back and tells me that right now she's going to the movies with her friends (all girls) so I'm like that's cool. But here's the part that bugs me.......I asked her what she was doing when she was busy, and she says "I was out eating with my friend Josh." and I'm like "Who?" and she goes "He's my classmate. He's visiting me, he goes to school in New York so he came back now while he's off." and I'm like "Oh ok..." but I don't know how to say it. I wanted to ask like oh if he likes her or something but I don't want to come across as Jealous. How do I bring this up to her to find out if she likes him or not? Do I need to start making this girl jealous now by saying "Oh I'm out with so-so-chick, she's just my friend" next time she calls?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How do I play this off? Best thing to do is not show jealousy right?
- Thread starter baurman
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You met her last week, how can you already be getting jealous?
In any case, don't even ask her about it. You might care, but it's better to keep your mouth shut. Like I said, it has only been a week. You still owe her the benefit of the doubt at this point. Are you even sure it is an exclusive relationship?
In any case, don't even ask her about it. You might care, but it's better to keep your mouth shut. Like I said, it has only been a week. You still owe her the benefit of the doubt at this point. Are you even sure it is an exclusive relationship?
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Well if you ain't exclusive with her you can't say sh!t. She said her "friend" josh which means... friend most likely. She probably just didn't wanna be rude and talk on the phone with you while she is with her friend visiting from new york. Don't worry about it or mention it to her.
Yeah I met her last week but I want an exclusive relationship with her. I didn't tell her because I don't ask, I'll wait for her to ask me. That's why I said I just brushed it off.....so I guess I just won't mention it to her then. Most likely just a friend anyway. I'm probably thinking too much into it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Precisely. The very same thing has happened to me in the past, DO NOT show that you care. By caring, you are making her the prize. Simply act like you are okay with it. Haven't you noticed that the girls that cheat on their boyfriends are the ones that have boyfriends who are too protective? It's same deal. Don't act like you completely do not care, because she will slip away from you possibly. But have a very calm outlook when dealing with situations such as the one you described above. If you give her space, she will listen to you and tell you everything, and she will be true to you.moto said:
Another good example, if you are in high school, are the underage girls who drink too much alcohol. Most of the girls who end up doing drugs/drink alcohol are the ones who have very protective parents. The ones that drink occasionally, but not too much, are the ones that are offered drinks at home. (Just something I have noticed, there are exceptions to everything in life.)
