"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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How do I play this off? Best thing to do is not show jealousy right?

baurman

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This girl that I met last week and who I've been seeing and going out with...I called her last night and she was like "I'm busy right now, can I call you back" so I was like Okay... so she calls me back and tells me that right now she's going to the movies with her friends (all girls) so I'm like that's cool. But here's the part that bugs me.......I asked her what she was doing when she was busy, and she says "I was out eating with my friend Josh." and I'm like "Who?" and she goes "He's my classmate. He's visiting me, he goes to school in New York so he came back now while he's off." and I'm like "Oh ok..." but I don't know how to say it. I wanted to ask like oh if he likes her or something but I don't want to come across as Jealous. How do I bring this up to her to find out if she likes him or not? Do I need to start making this girl jealous now by saying "Oh I'm out with so-so-chick, she's just my friend" next time she calls?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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DoctorLW

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You met her last week, how can you already be getting jealous?

In any case, don't even ask her about it. You might care, but it's better to keep your mouth shut. Like I said, it has only been a week. You still owe her the benefit of the doubt at this point. Are you even sure it is an exclusive relationship?
 

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Well if you ain't exclusive with her you can't say sh!t. She said her "friend" josh which means... friend most likely. She probably just didn't wanna be rude and talk on the phone with you while she is with her friend visiting from new york. Don't worry about it or mention it to her.
 

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Yeah I met her last week but I want an exclusive relationship with her. I didn't tell her because I don't ask, I'll wait for her to ask me. That's why I said I just brushed it off.....so I guess I just won't mention it to her then. Most likely just a friend anyway. I'm probably thinking too much into it.
 

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keep your mouth shut man before you ruin your chances. Asking her that shows insecurities which girls dislike.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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moto said:
keep your mouth shut man before you ruin your chances. Asking her that shows insecurities which girls dislike.
Precisely. The very same thing has happened to me in the past, DO NOT show that you care. By caring, you are making her the prize. Simply act like you are okay with it. Haven't you noticed that the girls that cheat on their boyfriends are the ones that have boyfriends who are too protective? It's same deal. Don't act like you completely do not care, because she will slip away from you possibly. But have a very calm outlook when dealing with situations such as the one you described above. If you give her space, she will listen to you and tell you everything, and she will be true to you.

Another good example, if you are in high school, are the underage girls who drink too much alcohol. Most of the girls who end up doing drugs/drink alcohol are the ones who have very protective parents. The ones that drink occasionally, but not too much, are the ones that are offered drinks at home. (Just something I have noticed, there are exceptions to everything in life.)
 

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For the record, if she says she's going somewhere, always tell her to have fun.

Say it naturally and truthfully. This'll show that you're not Beta.
 
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