"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This will be my first post here, cheers to that!

This is my situation: I'm in Austria spending a season as a skibum. I've met a girl named Elin who I would love to get closer with. Although, she has a boyfriend since 3 years back in Sweden.

But yesterday I found out that she is going home for a couple of days (today-Saturday) to sort things out with her bf. Apparently their feelings for each other is starting to cool down.

NOW! If she returns as a single, how and what do I do to get closer to her without ending up as the Rebound Guy that she hooks up with when she's drunk and then feels terrible regret?

I'm thinking about continuing have a flirty communication with her and try to take it to the next level. But then make it clear by telling her that I don't want to be the Rebound Guy.


What do you guys think? All help, especially fast help, will be very grateful!

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do not tell her you dont want to be rebound guy!!!!!!! They will ALL say otherwise. Just go for it, and whatever happens happens. Have good game. Thats all you can do. If you bang her, and thats it... Then you got some! Look at the bright side. Its not really in your control.

BTW, if she's going back home to sort things our with her BF, she will come back thinking she's in love with him. Just game her like she's single, and forget about her BF. Be the guy that makes her forget about her BF! And, most importantly, GO GAME OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER EVER EVER, put your eggs in one basket.
 
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Horaholic said it. Act like shes just another girl.

But I will say this... Isn't the rebound guy the guy who sleeps with, dates, or any other sexually related innuendo, still the the rebound guy?? Even if you start dating her, your the rebound guy. She never actually had time to distract herself from her ex.

Just a thought. So technically, no matter what way you look at it, your the rebound guy... assuming your successful with her.

Good luck mate!
 
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Thank you guys for the answers! Expecially Horaholic
I would probably have messed it up if I didn't post here.

I will keep you updated :)
 
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Hell, I have no problem being the Rebound Guy.

As long as I'm getting sex, and drama-free entertainment from this woman, I don't care how she views our arrangement.

Are you trying to hook up with this girl, or marry her for 80 years? Go date this girl, have some fun, and worry about titles afterward. If being "The Rebound Guy" means you bang her for a month, and she goes back to her boyfriend, then so be it. You still got what you wanted. Remember, dating is supposed to be fun. It's not that serious.

...Unless of course, you're already thinking about a lifelong loving relationship with a girl you havent even dated yet.

Catch my drift?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I totally catch your drift. That's one of my biggest problem; I think way to much.
But I'm working on that everyday. And after reading The Game by Neil Strauss and finding this forum I get new tips every day. Again, thank you.
 
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You want to be the rebound guy! Your not staying there forever.. Bang her and if its good she wont have regrets trust me
 
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Good news is that she just wrote to me and told me she misses me a lot :D
 
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Lennyboy said:
Good news is that she just wrote to me and told me she misses me a lot :D
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Very cute, but that's high school talk.

Remember, women will say all kind of sh*t. Ignore words, follow actions. Nice words without sex means nothing.
 
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You're right. Thank you for not letting me get carried away. I guess I still have A LOT to learn.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Okey, so she's coming back to town tomorrow Saturday.
How do I act?

How do I find out if she's single or not. Just by simple asking "So, are you single now? ;) "

Or should I be a little more gentle and ask "So how did things work out with your bf? What was the problem between you guys if I may ask?"

But I guess I don't want her to talk to much about her bf? I have really no idea how to deal with this situation. Any hints?
 
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Lennyboy said:
Okey, so she's coming back to town tomorrow Saturday.
How do I act?

How do I find out if she's single or not. Just by simple asking "So, are you single now? ;) "

Or should I be a little more gentle and ask "So how did things work out with your bf? What was the problem between you guys if I may ask?"

But I guess I don't want her to talk to much about her bf? I have really no idea how to deal with this situation. Any hints?
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You don't have to ask anything about that.

You ask the woman out for a drink. Not a date. Just getting drinks. When you have her one on one, you'll know what she thinks of you. Maybe you'll sit closer to her throughout the night, then if that feels right, maybe you'll try some KINO, then you'll put your arm around her, then you'll make out. And if she DOES have a boyfriend, she'll either reject your offer for drinks, or act cold towards your escalation. You'll figure it out.

It's not about her waving a sign that says, "I AM SINGLE." It's about you escalating to find out. I've never asked a woman if she was single.
 
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