You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I don't really see what you could do for that. sorry.Originally posted by Epic
It sticks out when I look at it from the side. It just doesn't look right at all.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Originally posted by Epic
My butt is too big and I want to make it smaller. I always wear shirts that cover up my butt so that no one can see it. It sticks out farther than it should. I was wondering if there are any workouts specializing in that area or certain diets that I could do to help tone it down. Thanks in advance.
squats would make your ass even BIGGER. Not what he wants.Originally posted by Krassus
Make sure you incorporate squats and deadlifts into your exercise program, and do High Intensity Interval Cardio 3-4 days a week.
http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/HipsWt.html#anchor169231
Originally posted by DIESEL
squats would make your ass even BIGGER. Not what he wants.
Unless he's fat, the problem is likely structural and there is nothing he can do about it.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.