"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do I make friends?

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I've been studying DYD for almost a year and have branched around to other things like DJing. How can I make friends with DJ types? How can I go about making friends at all? I'm not incompetent by any means, but I've got a major hang up with talking to completely random people without a reason. What are some situations I can put myself in to make some friends?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I hate to see your thread standing here with no replies. Looks to me your on the right path already. Keep posting in the forums, do some reading and research, take a dance class or something of the sort. Do something, anything, to better yourself and you will meet people on the way and also grow as a person.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Find people that you would have a reason to talk to. Mainly people with similar interests. This forum is a start, you may want to look for wingmen in your area. Also hang out in places with people who do things that you enjoy doing.
 
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most friends are made through shared activites eg sport
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I make my friends out of clay... that way if they piss me off I can shatter them with a hammer. LOL

seriously, GET OUT, and just talk to people... I'm not saying act like a friggin jehova's witness and go randomly door knocking, get out, and STUDY people, watch, and observe.. find people with similar interests, and strike up a convo. its not as hard as you may think it is, bro...
 
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