Basically this girl texted me and told me that she liked me and I told her that I found her attractive but I wasn't interested in anything serious. She said she wasn't either, so how can I let her know I want to be friends with benefits? Whats the best way of saying it, and can someone with experience with this give me advice if its worth pursuing or not.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do I let a girl know I want to be friends with benefits
- Thread starter Brighty
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WC2
Master Don Juan
What the hell is wrong with some of the guys on here?
Why are you even thinking about relationships, friends with benefits, or anything like that?!
You haven't touched this girl and you are already getting these images locked up into your mind?
Take my advice, and stop thinking so hard. Those who take all the time to think, never really act and see the pink.
Meet with this girl, see the pink, make sure it don't stank, and then come back and report.
You're not really going to know how this girl is until you start getting to know her, aka hooking up with her.
If she's a b!tch, toss her, if not keep her around. You don't have to tell her anything. You don't have to say, "hey let's be friends with benefits." Just do it. Bang other women, and bang her.
End of discussion.
Why are you even thinking about relationships, friends with benefits, or anything like that?!
You haven't touched this girl and you are already getting these images locked up into your mind?
Take my advice, and stop thinking so hard. Those who take all the time to think, never really act and see the pink.
Meet with this girl, see the pink, make sure it don't stank, and then come back and report.
You're not really going to know how this girl is until you start getting to know her, aka hooking up with her.
If she's a b!tch, toss her, if not keep her around. You don't have to tell her anything. You don't have to say, "hey let's be friends with benefits." Just do it. Bang other women, and bang her.
End of discussion.
Just go with it man. You don't have to tell her you don't want a relationship. That **** will figure itself out.Brighty said:Basically this girl texted me and told me that she liked me and I told her that I found her attractive but I wasn't interested in anything serious. She said she wasn't either, so how can I let her know I want to be friends with benefits? Whats the best way of saying it, and can someone with experience with this give me advice if its worth pursuing or not.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Well step number 1 is that you never actually say "friends with benefits" well at least not before you have already hooked up with her multiple times, and even then it would only be if she brought it up.
Learn that this is the real world and not everybody wants a relationship and even if they do, relationships just sort of build until one day you decide to be exclusive. By your response its like you want her to sign a contract on exactly how your relationship between the two of you will play out.
Never, and I mean never bring up any talks about what your current status or situation with a girl is. If you bring it up early she is going to label you as a friend, and she would be right since you haven't been sexual with her, and from that point on your labeled friend and friends don't hook up. If you bring up short or long term relationships your going to scare them off especially if you haven't hooked up with them.
This isn't high school, not everything has to have a status or a label, go out with her, make a move, escalate, and close the deal. Then just repeat over the next few weeks, and there you go friends with benefits. Don't lie to her, just don't bring up what your situation is or what you think of her. If she brings it up, try to avoid labeling the situation and if she pressures then just be honest with her then, but by that point it doesn't matter much.
Learn that this is the real world and not everybody wants a relationship and even if they do, relationships just sort of build until one day you decide to be exclusive. By your response its like you want her to sign a contract on exactly how your relationship between the two of you will play out.
Never, and I mean never bring up any talks about what your current status or situation with a girl is. If you bring it up early she is going to label you as a friend, and she would be right since you haven't been sexual with her, and from that point on your labeled friend and friends don't hook up. If you bring up short or long term relationships your going to scare them off especially if you haven't hooked up with them.
This isn't high school, not everything has to have a status or a label, go out with her, make a move, escalate, and close the deal. Then just repeat over the next few weeks, and there you go friends with benefits. Don't lie to her, just don't bring up what your situation is or what you think of her. If she brings it up, try to avoid labeling the situation and if she pressures then just be honest with her then, but by that point it doesn't matter much.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
Quoted for TruthPlayToWin said:Well step number 1 is that you never actually say "friends with benefits" well at least not before you have already hooked up with her multiple times, and even then it would only be if she brought it up.
Learn that this is the real world and not everybody wants a relationship and even if they do, relationships just sort of build until one day you decide to be exclusive. By your response its like you want her to sign a contract on exactly how your relationship between the two of you will play out.
Never, and I mean never bring up any talks about what your current status or situation with a girl is. If you bring it up early she is going to label you as a friend, and she would be right since you haven't been sexual with her, and from that point on your labeled friend and friends don't hook up. If you bring up short or long term relationships your going to scare them off especially if you haven't hooked up with them.
This isn't high school, not everything has to have a status or a label, go out with her, make a move, escalate, and close the deal. Then just repeat over the next few weeks, and there you go friends with benefits. Don't lie to her, just don't bring up what your situation is or what you think of her. If she brings it up, try to avoid labeling the situation and if she pressures then just be honest with her then, but by that point it doesn't matter much.