Yo. I'm gonna make this quick. There's this girl at my church....who well to say the least is a cutie. I know for a fact that she doesn't have a boy friend. I used to see her in the youth group, but now I'm in College group and she's still in high school. The only time I see her is in the church meeting area place. So how do I introduce myself?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do I introduce myself??
- Thread starter girlsrock
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Smooth Player 056
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Use this line:Originally posted by girlsrock
Yo. I'm gonna make this quick. There's this girl at my church....who well to say the least is a cutie. I know for a fact that she doesn't have a boy friend. I used to see her in the youth group, but now I'm in College group and she's still in high school. The only time I see her is in the church meeting area place. So how do I introduce myself?
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you."
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue...
"Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?"
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
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AC/DC
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: How do I introduce myself??
Dude... that's pretty good! I'm definitely gonna use that!Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use this line:
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you."
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue...
"Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?"
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
- Smooth Player 056 -
Re: Re: How do I introduce myself??
"oh nothing, i just wanted an excuse to talk to you."
i like that. u could just say after the "Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you." bit. if she says "thank you for what ?"Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use this line:
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you."
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue...
"Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?"
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
- Smooth Player 056 -
"oh nothing, i just wanted an excuse to talk to you."
Smooth Player 056
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Yeah that line is an all purpose opener for me. I use it all the time when i cant think of anything else
practice it so it sounds natural
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practice it so it sounds natural
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Founder and Creator of the HSDJBC/ Contest
Founder of Ultimate HSDJ Technique
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dannowillbookem
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: How do I introduce myself??
ahhah for some reason i've never been a big smoothplayer fan but my god i wanna try that.
nice.
Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use this line:
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you."
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue...
"Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?"
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
- Smooth Player 056 -
ahhah for some reason i've never been a big smoothplayer fan but my god i wanna try that.
nice.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: How do I introduce myself??
it is something that would be good, but i dont see myself saying something like that because it is just not my style, so i would come off as fake.
yea either put a lot of practice into saying that or be a natural smooth operator.Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
Use this line:
""Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you."
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue...
"Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof... you're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?"
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
- Smooth Player 056 -
it is something that would be good, but i dont see myself saying something like that because it is just not my style, so i would come off as fake.
TonyTheTigerOI
Master Don Juan
You shouldnt introduce yourself. You should wait for others to ask your name, it establishes a pattern of them descovering info about you... a pattern where they work to chase after you. Once someone asks your name provide your first, last, and your ethnicity. This surplus of information serves a dual purpose:
-It is a conversation leg. They can talk about their ancestory/last name
MORE IMPORTANTLY-It strengthens the pattern you created by letting them ask your name. First, you subconciously allowed them to chase you. Second, you rewarded them with interesting information beyond their expectations for their chase. This tempts them to chase futher and faster.
Smooth, if you post that approach like its yours, or any other COPYWRITTEN material Ill shoot Allen (the guy who runs the site) an email. Dont playgerize... years of some PUAs experience went into the development of that, and other all purpose openers. Its good that you want to share them, but understand that sosuave is NOT fast seduction, nor will it EVER be; and understand that it is not right for you to pass off masf material as your own.
-It is a conversation leg. They can talk about their ancestory/last name
MORE IMPORTANTLY-It strengthens the pattern you created by letting them ask your name. First, you subconciously allowed them to chase you. Second, you rewarded them with interesting information beyond their expectations for their chase. This tempts them to chase futher and faster.
Smooth, if you post that approach like its yours, or any other COPYWRITTEN material Ill shoot Allen (the guy who runs the site) an email. Dont playgerize... years of some PUAs experience went into the development of that, and other all purpose openers. Its good that you want to share them, but understand that sosuave is NOT fast seduction, nor will it EVER be; and understand that it is not right for you to pass off masf material as your own.