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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

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So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do I improve my initial eye contact?

Canadien

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somehow, even after improving so many things, and getting over approach anxiety, the tendency to look away the first time is still not going away, does anyone have any trick or program that can help me keep an eye contact longer?

Somehow I feel like creep if I look at her while she is looking at me, how do I get through this sticking point?

Guys give me an assignment that will push me over the top and to become good at this..
 

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Your right, dont stare at her for weirdly lengthy periods of time. If you meet eyes, smile and SHE should smile back and/or break eye contact first.Thats you que to move in.
 

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Practice staring at girls when you talk to them, but don't make it just a plain cold stare. You have to smile and make your facial expressions seem lively.
Just do this on girls as practice and if you creep them out, don't worry about it, you're just doing this so you'll get used to looking girls in the eyes.
 

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Canadien said:
...Somehow I feel like creep if I look at her while she is looking at me, how do I get through this sticking point?...
Smile... :D
 

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Look between her eyes or just focus on one eye. After making more eye contact and not worrying about if your a creep. You will be more confortable doing it.
 

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Canadien said:
is not working can you see if you missed something..or pm me the article..

I guess they removed th e link - too bad - but I paraphrased it in my book, while comparing it to another technique. Here you go

Key #1 Eye Contact

When you approach a customer, do not look at her breasts or some other part of her body. You want to send the message that you are interested in her as a person first, not simply as a sale. The eye is the window to the sale. The pupil is the access point to the vagina. Make a pupil-to-pupil connection, and then go directly to the next Key. SMile

For a variation of the first two Keys, I recommend reading the information at this link:

http://tranceboy.fws1.com/eyecontact.htm

The eye contact experiment described at this link contends that it may be more effective to maintain continual eye contact until the customer smiles and says “Hi.” The basic premise presented here is that women are more impressed by and interested in a man who does not appear too eager or excited. This is Alpha caveman logic that works well on women who are very confident, very outgoing or very good-looking. If you want to weed out customers who don’t have a zest for life, this technique is for you.
The downside of this approach is that you will offend or deter many clients. There are two kinds of women: one who is looking for a challenge, and one who runs from it. Many women are afraid of a very confident man. They want him, but they lack confidence themselves. If you stare down the customer who isn’t ready, you will frighten her away. For success with customer number two, it is safer to use Ron’s Keys.
 

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Your inner confidence will improve eye contact. When I used to go out on dates I could barely look the girl in the eye for conversation. One thing I have found is don't try to make it one person "dominating" eye contact over the other like some kind of contest, but to convey your presence and attraction strongly, unwaveringly through your eyes. Work on inner (and outer) confidence as well as talking to lots of girls and getting used to it more.
 
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