"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do I handle a compliment?

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So this happened about 2 years ago, but I am still perplexed. I was a barista at Starbucks, and I was at the bar making a latte. A girl was waiting for her drink, clearly in her mid-twenties. She was a 8 red-head, pretty cute. Looked like she would be a regular at porn shops and tatoo parlors, that kind of looking girl

Anyway she told me out of nowhere while standing waiting for her drink, "nice haircut"

I'm such a lame I didn't even know what to say besides, "thanks"

How does a dj handle a compliment from a woman? I'm new here, someone else define "afc" while your at it
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm not a dj but generally just saying "thanks" and smiling is fine, or thanks and complimenting something about themselves.
Or the cheekier option, if it's a masculine feature that's complimented by a female say something like "thanks, I like your beard/whatever too". Personally, if there's a chance to make a joke of it or change conversation, I do that, with guys anyway. With girls I compliment something back and am generally more flattered by the compliment as it's more likely to be just that rather than anything else.

Also you can be modest but don't take modesty too far either, it just annoys people, they assume it's fake modesty or you're far too insecure.
 

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A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bible_Belt said:
A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
Correct. My take on this is that when women compliment you on anything they want to test you to see how you react. If you react like a mature and level headed man you will score points. If you behave like an idiot and start braggin you will look immature.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.
 

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A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply
I agree thank you is the appropriate reply.
However, I get the feeling that the OP was wanting to find a way to use this as an opportunity to get the girl's number or such.

No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.
I agree that just because a girl compliments a guy, it doesn't mean she is into him. Girls, and even guys, will sometimes give compliments just to be social, to make the other person feel good, or to just express a thought.

Of course, guys here are taught to always assume attraction.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Hey, thanks sweetheart! You are obviously a woman with great taste."
 

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I would smile, and would answer in a ****y way: "Yeah, I know!" And if you want you may add: "You know what´s good!".
 

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CuriousGirl said:
No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.

How do you try to get someone to understand that you like them? Men tend to be too obvious, and women tend to be too subtle.
 
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