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How do I handle a compliment?

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So this happened about 2 years ago, but I am still perplexed. I was a barista at Starbucks, and I was at the bar making a latte. A girl was waiting for her drink, clearly in her mid-twenties. She was a 8 red-head, pretty cute. Looked like she would be a regular at porn shops and tatoo parlors, that kind of looking girl

Anyway she told me out of nowhere while standing waiting for her drink, "nice haircut"

I'm such a lame I didn't even know what to say besides, "thanks"

How does a dj handle a compliment from a woman? I'm new here, someone else define "afc" while your at it
 

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I'm not a dj but generally just saying "thanks" and smiling is fine, or thanks and complimenting something about themselves.
Or the cheekier option, if it's a masculine feature that's complimented by a female say something like "thanks, I like your beard/whatever too". Personally, if there's a chance to make a joke of it or change conversation, I do that, with guys anyway. With girls I compliment something back and am generally more flattered by the compliment as it's more likely to be just that rather than anything else.

Also you can be modest but don't take modesty too far either, it just annoys people, they assume it's fake modesty or you're far too insecure.
 

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A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
 

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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Bible_Belt said:
A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
Correct. My take on this is that when women compliment you on anything they want to test you to see how you react. If you react like a mature and level headed man you will score points. If you behave like an idiot and start braggin you will look immature.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply. But understand that a compliment is about the most direct a woman is ever going to be in telling you she likes you. When she says 'I like your haircut' what she means is 'I like you.'
No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.
 

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A simple "thank you" is always the correct reply
I agree thank you is the appropriate reply.
However, I get the feeling that the OP was wanting to find a way to use this as an opportunity to get the girl's number or such.

No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.
I agree that just because a girl compliments a guy, it doesn't mean she is into him. Girls, and even guys, will sometimes give compliments just to be social, to make the other person feel good, or to just express a thought.

Of course, guys here are taught to always assume attraction.
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Hey, thanks sweetheart! You are obviously a woman with great taste."
 

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I would smile, and would answer in a ****y way: "Yeah, I know!" And if you want you may add: "You know what´s good!".
 

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CuriousGirl said:
No she doesn't, there have been plenty of times I've complimented someone on something, it doesn't mean I like them, I'm just voicing a thought. I would have said what you mention is more true of guys.

How do you try to get someone to understand that you like them? Men tend to be too obvious, and women tend to be too subtle.
 
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