"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do I get that attitude?

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I just broke up with my gf of 7 months(not long but **** it) because i live nearly 8 hours away from her and i'm a student in my best age. I study marketing and there are a 70 % ratio of girls to the boys 30 %.

The problem is that when I had my gf, i could just have fun and don't care because i had a girl...but now that i'm single, i feel my game have been so reduced. I can fine hold a conversation, but not escalate. I don't want to come off as "desperate or ON" for the girls. I want them to chase me... but as of now it's not like that... I want an attitude where the girls feel like "Damn, why is he single?" Where they know i can give them what they want.
Anyone who can help a guy out with some tips?

Thx for a great forum, keep enjoying life guys
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Read the DJ Bible and just seek to improve yourself.
Don't make women your sole purpose in life.
Become a better man and the women will come.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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Greasy Pig said:
Read the DJ Bible and just seek to improve yourself.
Don't make women your sole purpose in life.
Become a better man and the women will come.
+1.

Stop over thinking and giving a ****

And, +1.

Doing these things means you will quickly arrive at the same mind set as when you had a GF; that being 'having fun and not caring'. You obviously ditched your ex because that's what you want. Get on with it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NorwegianViking93

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TheMonkeyKing said:
+1.

Stop over thinking and giving a ****

And, +1.

Doing these things means you will quickly arrive at the same mind set as when you had a GF; that being 'having fun and not caring'. You obviously ditched your ex because that's what you want. Get on with it.
You guys have some great advice, i understand !

I have been too focused on getting with girls, and not just doing what drives me. My hobbies, thank you guys :)
 

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Exactly. Besides working hard at school, make sure you have at least one really good hobby. I can't overemphasize this.

It could be sports, dance, martial arts, a musical instrument, or whatever. Just something you enjoy, are passionate about, and are learning and improving from.

Then if it doesn't work out with a given chick, you won't care because you have something more interesting to do.

I thought it was enough to be the guy who doesn't give a F. Nope. You want to be the happy guy who doesn't give a F. The best way to do that is have fun stuff going on that you are passionate about.
 

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I got some great advice many years ago.
Before the age 30, your sole purpose in regards to women is to just fvck as many as possible, do not become attached.

Now, if you do find one which is a great match, then by all means do away with this advice. The point is, you are still a student you WILL meet and fvck other chicks. Fact. You'll probably have x amount of girlfriends in the next several years or whatever. So get fvcking. There is zero for you to worry about. Just keep this in mind. Let go and fvck
 

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Thank you guys so much for all the great advices.

I'm not ready for a LTR with a girl 8 hours away from me, so that's one of the reasons i dumped her. I wanna be free, single, live life and rather settle down later.
I need to kill that desperation yes, you are right
 
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