"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I get that attitude?

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I just broke up with my gf of 7 months(not long but **** it) because i live nearly 8 hours away from her and i'm a student in my best age. I study marketing and there are a 70 % ratio of girls to the boys 30 %.

The problem is that when I had my gf, i could just have fun and don't care because i had a girl...but now that i'm single, i feel my game have been so reduced. I can fine hold a conversation, but not escalate. I don't want to come off as "desperate or ON" for the girls. I want them to chase me... but as of now it's not like that... I want an attitude where the girls feel like "Damn, why is he single?" Where they know i can give them what they want.
Anyone who can help a guy out with some tips?

Thx for a great forum, keep enjoying life guys
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Read the DJ Bible and just seek to improve yourself.
Don't make women your sole purpose in life.
Become a better man and the women will come.
 
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Greasy Pig said:
Read the DJ Bible and just seek to improve yourself.
Don't make women your sole purpose in life.
Become a better man and the women will come.
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+1.

Stop over thinking and giving a ****

And, +1.

Doing these things means you will quickly arrive at the same mind set as when you had a GF; that being 'having fun and not caring'. You obviously ditched your ex because that's what you want. Get on with it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheMonkeyKing said:
+1.

Stop over thinking and giving a ****

And, +1.

Doing these things means you will quickly arrive at the same mind set as when you had a GF; that being 'having fun and not caring'. You obviously ditched your ex because that's what you want. Get on with it.
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You guys have some great advice, i understand !

I have been too focused on getting with girls, and not just doing what drives me. My hobbies, thank you guys :)
 
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Exactly. Besides working hard at school, make sure you have at least one really good hobby. I can't overemphasize this.

It could be sports, dance, martial arts, a musical instrument, or whatever. Just something you enjoy, are passionate about, and are learning and improving from.

Then if it doesn't work out with a given chick, you won't care because you have something more interesting to do.

I thought it was enough to be the guy who doesn't give a F. Nope. You want to be the happy guy who doesn't give a F. The best way to do that is have fun stuff going on that you are passionate about.
 
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I got some great advice many years ago.
Before the age 30, your sole purpose in regards to women is to just fvck as many as possible, do not become attached.

Now, if you do find one which is a great match, then by all means do away with this advice. The point is, you are still a student you WILL meet and fvck other chicks. Fact. You'll probably have x amount of girlfriends in the next several years or whatever. So get fvcking. There is zero for you to worry about. Just keep this in mind. Let go and fvck
 
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Thank you guys so much for all the great advices.

I'm not ready for a LTR with a girl 8 hours away from me, so that's one of the reasons i dumped her. I wanna be free, single, live life and rather settle down later.
I need to kill that desperation yes, you are right
 
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