How do i get rid of my desperation!

[European-DJ]

I have never been like this, i am a control freak, desperate, demanding and jealous... i am everything i hate! ..

I have never been like this, and i really need a cure.

For now, i am not going to dump the girl, because i like her. This time she is not the problem, i am, i care too much...

What are your advice on how to care less/be less dependent/less desperate.

- Do not give me the "spin more plate/fvck other girls" answer, because i have F-buddies and plates next to her, but i am still envious as Fvck..

Any advice?

 

[betheman]

what are you envious of? what is your fear?

 

[teakroy]

We must stop be desperate..

I guess this works on a level and she will like how much you care for her but after a while girls are just bored and leave the man who cares to much for her.

It's sound silly but ..This is my thinking...They like drama...

After all is the woman loss .

 

[tdotseoul]

Take a deep breathe, and just relax.
Think about the worst case scenarios, like she left you, would that really be the end of your world?

You're too deep into the "crush" zone. You gotta snap out of it and face reality. For example, don't you have a project to work on? Like an essay? Looking to get a promotion? Looking for a new job? etc.

Snap out of this girl and start working on things in your life.

 

[pinkfl]

In my experience, guys become more controlling, insecure, and demanding when other things in their lives are no longer in balance.

So while I don't know you, the best advice I can give:

1. Focus on work or school. Keep your grades up or ask your boss what you can do extra after you've finished the work you are assigned. That type of initiative can make you invaluable to a company, which helps with job security. Offer to go in on a day off, or do something extra.

2. Keep in touch with other friends. Hang out with them. Plan an evening with them, and encourage her to plan a girl's night. Call your family and talk to them. Stay in contact with people that are important to you.

3. Focus on your hobbies. Whatever it is that initially drew this girl to you will go away if you stop being your own person. So if you had something that you loved to do, keep doing it, whether its fencing, archery, grappling, whatever.

4. Plan on doing something sweet for her and see how it goes. If she is appreciative, attentive, and affectionate, take comfort in that. Remember that YOU just made her smile.

 

[JohnChops]

First read this man - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=15633

then read this by Pook - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16926&highlight=pook+kill

Good luck budday!

 

[SeymourCake]

Instead of obsessing over women, have an obsession for self improvement.

 

[BeDJ]

My Experience

My Solution

 

[DonGorgon]

get women ...lol its the only way.. you need to figure out what women like you and how to gett them to F you..