"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do I get over oneitis so I can start socializing normally?

Vice

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Check out this thread for the full story. It's short.

So anyway, I've decided to chill and lay off this chick after we go to prom, but my question is this: how do I get these feelings out of me so I can be in state and not be too moody to start talking to other girls, like I'm going to tonight at starbucks?

I'm going to run to the bank and then to the gym to work out, get those happy little chemicals into me, and then take one of my girl friends and sarge starbucks for a bit.

Also, part of the reason why this girl is losing interest in me is because I'm rather boring to hang out with. Any idea on how to spice my personality up?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MotownMack

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Other women are the quickest way to get over situations like this.

They are coming in and out my life so fast, oneitis is almost an impossibility.

Your g/f calling you boring is a broad stroke, don't go by one persons opinion. Have other people called you boring?
 

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MotownMack said:
Other women are the quickest way to get over situations like this.

They are coming in and out my life so fast, oneitis is almost an impossibility.

Your g/f calling you boring is a broad stroke, don't go by one persons opinion. Have other people called you boring?
She never called me boring.

I have called MYSELF boring. I don't have any cool friends to chill with because I removed myself from my social circle, and she's joined that social circle that I tried to keep her away from.

But tomorrow I'm going to try to make a bunch of guy friends that i can chill with so it will no longer be a problem :)
 

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There are two ways to get over oneitis.

1. Hook up with other girls.

2. Don't interact or even be in the same place as her. Out of sight out of mind.
 
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