Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ouch! Goodness gracious, $11,000 USD? Could you provide us with some more details as to what this came from? Please tell me it's not gambling debt.e-lie said:How would one go about getting out of 11,000.00 worth of debt for me consolidation is out of the question.Do I just pay it down ?Any programs you guys can offer?:rock:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, given that we're talking a doctor and lawyer, they probably spent 6 figures on their wedding and have 2 leased luxury cars in the garage. People think making more money is the answer to their problems, but all that does is give them carte blanche to spend more. Parkinson's law at work.backbreaker said:i saw on NBC this morning this doctor and lawyer got married and they were combined half a mil in debt. they had paid 12k of it off. wow.
that kinda defeats the purpose of becoming a doctor/lawyer.
their output for loads and debt was 4100 a month and I that doesn't sound like a lot of principal payment either at 500k.
talk about spinning wheels
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
or.... they went in debt to pay for medical and law school. I hear medical school is especially expensive.speakeasy said:Yeah, given that we're talking a doctor and lawyer, they probably spent 6 figures on their wedding and have 2 leased luxury cars in the garage. People think making more money is the answer to their problems, but all that does is give them carte blanche to spend more. Parkinson's law at work.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.