this is a tough one
a girl that used to like me, now i like her and ive been texting her etc. but ive felt minimal effort from her side apart from one night where she had a few drinks and things went well.
but i think now ive started texting her and making an effort she's backed off somewhat. disappointing.
on saturday night when we were out i got her on the dancefloor with me, we danced for maybe a minute but she seemed unsettled (i know she's shy but this wasnt a great vibe), she then went over to talk to someone, came back, and then again said 'ill be back in a second and went to talk to her friend'. i gave it maybe 10 seconds and then walked off the dancefloor - as i said i think it was a hint and i didnt want to be pushy.
then outside afterwards we were sitting beside each other and she didnt really give me much to go on, i.e.- not much eye contact or anything, pretty much disinterested in my mind. i find this very hard to work with and i found myself having nothing to say. i negged her a few times and that went do horribly, i think she might need to lighten up.
what am i to make of it? im worried she's afraid of me making a move or something and seems to be a bit distant to avoid this, or my other gut feeling was that me with a few drinks in me seemed to turn her off.
any advice would be great.
im thinking of sticking her in the friend zone and she how that goes ad maybe it could blossom if i get her back in a comfortzone? also not to drink so much because i think it affected my game big time, or certainly my judgement (eg. i just sat beside her outside, a sloppy approach maybe)
lastly, should i apologise for negging her? i went too far, as i often do with drink in me. i asked her if she had cut a piece out of a tablecloth for her skirt, and she didnt exactly laugh. oppps
a girl that used to like me, now i like her and ive been texting her etc. but ive felt minimal effort from her side apart from one night where she had a few drinks and things went well.
but i think now ive started texting her and making an effort she's backed off somewhat. disappointing.
on saturday night when we were out i got her on the dancefloor with me, we danced for maybe a minute but she seemed unsettled (i know she's shy but this wasnt a great vibe), she then went over to talk to someone, came back, and then again said 'ill be back in a second and went to talk to her friend'. i gave it maybe 10 seconds and then walked off the dancefloor - as i said i think it was a hint and i didnt want to be pushy.
then outside afterwards we were sitting beside each other and she didnt really give me much to go on, i.e.- not much eye contact or anything, pretty much disinterested in my mind. i find this very hard to work with and i found myself having nothing to say. i negged her a few times and that went do horribly, i think she might need to lighten up.
what am i to make of it? im worried she's afraid of me making a move or something and seems to be a bit distant to avoid this, or my other gut feeling was that me with a few drinks in me seemed to turn her off.
any advice would be great.
im thinking of sticking her in the friend zone and she how that goes ad maybe it could blossom if i get her back in a comfortzone? also not to drink so much because i think it affected my game big time, or certainly my judgement (eg. i just sat beside her outside, a sloppy approach maybe)
lastly, should i apologise for negging her? i went too far, as i often do with drink in me. i asked her if she had cut a piece out of a tablecloth for her skirt, and she didnt exactly laugh. oppps