"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do i get around to be fully confident C&F with women?

solo1

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Ill be frank, most women i talk with i barely use c&f. And truth is i have no clue what to talk about, so i just end up asking where she's from and why she's in this major etc. And if the girl is interested enough, she'll ask me back.

But normally aside from that i have no clue how to bring out my true fun innerself, along with c&f of course. I'd probably say that girls that are easy to talk with, i'd have less of a problem. But it appears most girls are just overall shy (or arent exactly sociable with guys), so if they are less talkative im more at a loss for words. They are interested at first, but the more i keep this up the sooner they'll lose interest. So this has become a serious issue for me.

so in short, Generally if im around friends or people i know, i am my true fun self. But around women i dont know so well, i have trouble bringing that about. Does anyone havve suggestions?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by solo1
Ill be frank, most women i talk with i barely use c&f. And truth is i have no clue what to talk about, so i just end up asking where she's from and why she's in this major etc. And if the girl is interested enough, she'll ask me back.

But normally aside from that i have no clue how to bring out my true fun innerself, along with c&f of course. I'd probably say that girls that are easy to talk with, i'd have less of a problem. But it appears most girls are just overall shy (or arent exactly sociable with guys), so if they are less talkative im more at a loss for words. They are interested at first, but the more i keep this up the sooner they'll lose interest. So this has become a serious issue for me.

so in short, Generally if im around friends or people i know, i am my true fun self. But around women i dont know so well, i have trouble bringing that about. Does anyone havve suggestions?
ya, instead of asking questions try to keep talkin in a linear fashion where you find out she likes bio and you start talkin about why shes likes bio and then you get to hear how she wants to be a madd scientist, and you say how madd scientists are crazy, so shes says but hahha im just kidding, and then you keep talkin about bio.:confused:
 

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C&F Requires starting the conversation with a very specific frame. You are the older brother and she (and her friends) are your little sister. Every time she says something, you MUST bust her balls about it.

"Oh you are from X town? We can't be friends."
"WHY WHY??"
"Because you must be a X-sports-team fan... things will never work out between us"
"NO NO, I like Y-local-sports-team"
"You're just saying that so i'll like you... you are such a bad liar..."
 

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Originally posted by locarius
C&F Requires starting the conversation with a very specific frame. You are the older brother and she (and her friends) are your little sister. Every time she says something, you MUST bust her balls about it.

"Oh you are from X town? We can't be friends."
"WHY WHY??"
"Because you must be a X-sports-team fan... things will never work out between us"
"NO NO, I like Y-local-sports-team"
"You're just saying that so i'll like you... you are such a bad liar..."
yea that makes sense, brings back memories...
I understand that c&f is a form of teasing, i've been able to do it in the past with girls that i LJBF. But somehow i guess i cant get into the same comfort zone with new girls to use it as readily and easily
 

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C+F requires two things, confidence, and testosterone. If you lack either, you'll fail.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by italostud
C+F requires two things, confidence, and testosterone. If you lack either, you'll fail.
does injecting help :D
 

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Originally posted by RaWBLooD
does injecting help :D
Yes, but doing things liiiikke...working out(squats, deads specifically), eating well, not cutting fats out of your diet(required for test. prod.), sleeping well, not drinking/smoking cigs/weed, eliminating stress....will all raise testosterone levels without resorting to anything resembling exogenous testosterone.
 
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