"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do I deal with this situation?

LinkinParkROX

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So here's what happened, I had a date with a friend of mine who's a girl (not technically my girlfriend just yet). We were talking about it today, and suddenly she told me it would be difficult, because she had other plans as well. So it would be hard to balance both. To which I responded, "Go do your other stuff. We'll go out some other time. " and just walked away. A few hours later, she texts me saying "Ummm is everything fine? I hope you're not pissed off. "

I'm gonna play keep-away for a while, not reply just yet, and see how things pan out. When I finally do end up speaking to her, what should I say? I'm sort of confused. Should I say "I'm totally not pissed off - we plan something, and just before we get there you tell me you have other plans. Very nice. (Sarcastically)" and just be difficult & start an argument with her? Or should I just play it cool and pretend like nothing ever happened & not be pissed off?

I think I should be difficult, it shows selfishness, which is attractive.
But at the same time maybe I shouldn't be, because I might come off as needy.

Okay - this is confusing. Help, please?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm in the Mood

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Selfishness is attractive? Man you're fvckin kidding me...

You don't need to attract her because she's already attracted to you - she wants to go on another date. Cut the bullshvt act and make some solid plans. Do you want to be difficult and give her the drama that women like, or do you want to make the second date official like YOU want?
 

LinkinParkROX

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It's too late to make solid plans, now that I walked away & all.
What do I do now? What do I say when I talk to her?
 

Stblack

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Jesus, why the hell are you analyzing this so much? Just tell her you're a bit annoyed. Or tell her you're fine. Why does it matter so much? I don't know why you didn't try to work it out in the first place. It's summer. There is plenty of time to hang out with her. Make plans for later.

And I still don't understand why people come on here asking for replies to a text. It's a text. Just a text.

Just reply however and make new plans.
 

Analyzeit

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Yeah, stop analyzing so much man. I understand though the bible doesn't answer every question, but understanding everything in the bible does answer every question it just takes time. She take this for example.

Txt her back just saying your fine, most likely she'll still think that there's something up and it's not fine so she'll either work harder (this is what we all want) or give up (This is the second thing we always want, because in between is the worst) Then make solid plans, show her that everything is fine then she will go to sleep smiling that night with you or not but still smiling because everything is fine and that what you want her to do make her go to sleep smiling.

That answer your question?? Now stop analyzing everything

Edit: And it's not too late to make solid plans, if she's still attracted to you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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