Well, there is this girl I met this semester in college. I always thought she was cute, but I didn't really care about hooking up with her until recently. One day she caught me off guard, as I complemented her art work and she felt talkative. She asked me if I had a myspace page. I say yeah, so she tells me to add her. At the time I was thinking .....nice, nice, whatever. Now at the end of the semester, I realized alot of things I haven't before. Like for example, she'd always give tiny hints like "Oh, I'm hungry today, I'm probably going to go get something to eat after class" she says that EVERY class. Then sometimes she asks for directions to a supply store and asks me if I'm going to go their any time soon. Well, then eventually she got a side kick and asked if I had an SN so I gave it to her. She always IM's me. Then she asks "Do you have a girlfriend?" and I say "no" and she goes "just asking buddy!" She's the one who always IM's me online too. our final is tomorrow, and she's going to be there. So yesterday I'm playing around with her online telling her that I know she can't wait to get to class because she misses me and stuff like that, then I tell her "you're probably going to be too busy thinking about food to even take the exam, like every week" and she goes "Yeah, and you never buy me anything to eat!" so their were many hint now that I back track. So bottom line is, I think she's interested in me, I would like to know what do you guys' opinions and how to deal with the situation? Tomorrow is my last time seeing her in class. Should I ask her for her number or wait until she says something? Also, I haven't seen her in weeks, should I give her a hug? Haha I don't know, usually it's different when I don't dictate the whole pace of the situation, so this is a puzzle to me right now....
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How do I deal with a friend situation? How should I deal with it?
- Thread starter XMinister
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
YES!! ask for her number and out to lunch. Duh, she is hinting to hang out with you.
Damn, I read it this morning and I was going to make my move today, but she didn't come to class, it's weird...Should I wait for her to get online and ask her if we can meet sometime, then get her number when we meet up? Or should I wait for her to get online and ask her for her number right then and their?
Sorry, I can be retarded sometimes.
Sorry, I can be retarded sometimes.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Go online. When you see her online say: "Hey, I didn't see you in class the other day. I was gonna see if I could fit you in my schedual for lunch sometime." Saying that is a little ****y/Funny, shows you might be busy and your interested...
Take it from there and get her number. If she doesn't seem interested don't bother.
Take it from there and get her number. If she doesn't seem interested don't bother.