"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It is clearly not a very masculine thing for a guy to bring up becomming gf/bf whatever, but over where I live, I guess thats just the way it is done. Maybe some girls will bring it up, but the one in question with me, will not. She told a friend of hers (who I am also reasonably good friends with) that she is waiting for me to tell her what I want...

So how do I bring it up.. I can't think of anything that doesn't (with me imagining myself watching from above) looking like a tool.

Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If she hasn't mentioned you ain't doing your work right...
 

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that doesnt matter. the point is, do you want a commited, no sex with other girls, no flirting with anyone, relationship?
 

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kiss = i like you, lets me close friends
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ask her, "where do you see our relationship going?"
 

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unnamed04 said:
It is clearly not a very masculine thing for a guy to bring up becomming gf/bf whatever, but over where I live, I guess thats just the way it is done. Maybe some girls will bring it up, but the one in question with me, will not. She told a friend of hers (who I am also reasonably good friends with) that she is waiting for me to tell her what I want...

So how do I bring it up.. I can't think of anything that doesn't (with me imagining myself watching from above) looking like a tool.

Thanks


You want to know how?

Do A Fvckin Search!

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Look into the component of the Mystery method involving Comfort and Trust. You should be able to use some of the "You've hijacked my brain." techniques to sway her one way or the other. The most efficient way to do this is basically to talk about yourself. Spend time with her, and have her form an emotional attachment to you using some classic escalation tactics (push-pull). Have a general plan, but leave lots of room for the unexpected. If you flip the right switches in her brain, she will be, for lack of better words, addicted to you.

-Damian
 
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