"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How did this happen?

Rooney

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I recently landed in the friends zone and I have no idea why. Now I know I'm ****y (very) and funny, and I'm also good looking. Now I am pretty much what most posts here tell you to be and I do it naturally. Nothing forced. I don't even have one-itis although I was aiming at this one girl in particular.

Now what went wrong? According to me and the DJ bible I did almost everything right. And what do I get? Friends zone.

Could anyone please offer me some advice?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ascalon

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You enter the friend zone when you don't show your sexuality enough,or in other words I think you havent acted when needed (for example the kiss tells much more about you and your intentions that talking in a ****Y... and FuNnY way).
The thing that makes us different from the women is the action.Instead of talkig sometimes you just have to act.
I will be glad if you give us more details about your story. :)
 

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Kino is the key. Give her a touch/brush on the hips, that will do the work.
 

Rooney

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I guess I never really did any full on kino. Things were too complicated untill recently (see my other thread). I was always jokin around with her teasing and stuff. ****y + funny all the time. Guess I never really showed my intentions fully. Other complications probably helped the friends zone cause.

I told her I thought she was hot while slipping into the conversation that some other chick found me attractive :p

So she might think differently of me now. What do you guys think?
 

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Rooney said:
I guess I never really did any full on kino. Things were too complicated untill recently (see my other thread). I was always jokin around with her teasing and stuff. ****y + funny all the time. Guess I never really showed my intentions fully. Other complications probably helped the friends zone cause.

I told her I thought she was hot while slipping into the conversation that some other chick found me attractive :p

So she might think differently of me now. What do you guys think?
yes, but read her actions. if she looks like she is tryin to talk to you more and likes u more than she thinks differently of you. remember, by more sexual with her, just telling her stuff wont make her like u. u have to touch her, show her that she looks sexy to you. just CF isnt enough, even her guys friends pull that stuff all the time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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gymshorts

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maybe its nothing that you did, maybe she just isnt interested in you.
move on.
 

ryannath

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^^^Gymshorts is right. Maybe her cat died, maybe she is insecure, maybe she thinks you would play her, etc. Who knows. She just is not interested. Nothing you did wrong maybe.
 
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