"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How did I handle this?

faiNt`

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If you read my last post, I've been seeing H for 9 months. We're not together. I told her I was taking her out two days before I was actually taking her out. The day comes along and I text her when I wake up to confirm. Eventually it works out and I see her.

Fast foward to present time. The same situation occurs, and once again she isn't 100% so I'm thinking about confirming with her that morning, but I don't. I want to see what happens. I said I would be there 6 if she confirmed with me. She never confirmed so I took someone else out. She texts me later that night and asks why I never came, and I reply "you never got back to me so I figured you were blowing me off ... took someone else." No reply.

How did I do?

I thought I did well.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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terran2k

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you did fine. no need to tolerate her wishy washy-ness.
 

rtrev64

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I need to grow balls like you and actually do that.. Nice...for 9 months? wow nice.. So now what happend after you told her you took someone else out?
 

faiNt`

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She decided not to reply. I'm not going to initiate contact first because she screwed up by not giving me an answer when I proposed the idea of going out. I mean I told her exactly what was going to happen and she was still "unsure." I didn't confirm because, like I said, I wanted to see what would happen. I think she just likes to put blame on me for whatever.

Oh, and as to what happen ... She didn't reply. That's all.
 
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