Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How did I handle this?

faiNt`

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If you read my last post, I've been seeing H for 9 months. We're not together. I told her I was taking her out two days before I was actually taking her out. The day comes along and I text her when I wake up to confirm. Eventually it works out and I see her.

Fast foward to present time. The same situation occurs, and once again she isn't 100% so I'm thinking about confirming with her that morning, but I don't. I want to see what happens. I said I would be there 6 if she confirmed with me. She never confirmed so I took someone else out. She texts me later that night and asks why I never came, and I reply "you never got back to me so I figured you were blowing me off ... took someone else." No reply.

How did I do?

I thought I did well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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terran2k

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you did fine. no need to tolerate her wishy washy-ness.
 

rtrev64

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I need to grow balls like you and actually do that.. Nice...for 9 months? wow nice.. So now what happend after you told her you took someone else out?
 

faiNt`

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She decided not to reply. I'm not going to initiate contact first because she screwed up by not giving me an answer when I proposed the idea of going out. I mean I told her exactly what was going to happen and she was still "unsure." I didn't confirm because, like I said, I wanted to see what would happen. I think she just likes to put blame on me for whatever.

Oh, and as to what happen ... She didn't reply. That's all.
 
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