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How could of i did this approach better?

rushing dude 123

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I usually approach women and they r pretty friendly, but this one ****ed up lol. I saw a girl at the bus stop and she had like two pieces of luggage, but i bottled it and then i went to my friends house and i left and saw she was still there, so i went up to her and asked if she isn't leaving london today and she smiled and said no. Then i asked her name (this is where it ****ed up lol) And she said why, i said its how strangers aquante with eachother and she replyed maybe i don't want to aqaunte myself with strangers and then i said ouch thats mean and she said tough. Then i asked what u won't even give me a clue, she said no and i then said alright and walked away.

I just want to know if this girl was just a total ***** or my approach was really really bad.
 
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okay shes a total b!tch...
though you should have used the word "people" instead of "strangers" like, "it's how people acquaint with each other" because look at what her next sentance would have been:

"maybe I don't want to acquant myself with people"
making her a social retard.

again, this girl is a total b!tch. if she wouldn't tell you something as trivial as her name, I think shes rude, antisocial and probably prude as hell, also someone who doesn't have a fun or good life at all.
 

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yes i heard u shouldn't say stranger, but its just what popped in my head. I think i should of said stuff like actually enquire why she had the luggage and what she was doing, before asking her name. This approach was probablly the most negative i got, but i am proud that i actually did the approach, seeing it has given me some more experience.

ps. thanks for the input grand.
 

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np man, just remember 1 thing -

"ouch thats mean" makes you sound pretty AFC.
"alright babe, your loss" then walk away, makes you sound like a DJ.
 

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
"alright babe, your loss" then walk away, makes you sound like a DJ.

really???

I would think thats pretty pathetic. "Your loss... (Cause I'm the ****ing MAN!!!)"... I think any girl would be glad you're walking away after saying something like that.

looking arrogant and defensive is not DJ.
 

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rushing dude 123 said:
I usually approach women and they r pretty friendly, but this one ****ed up lol. I saw a girl at the bus stop and she had like two pieces of luggage, but i bottled it and then i went to my friends house and i left and saw she was still there, so i went up to her and asked if she isn't leaving london today and she smiled and said no. Then i asked her name (this is where it ****ed up lol) And she said why, i said its how strangers aquante with eachother and she replyed maybe i don't want to aqaunte myself with strangers and then i said ouch thats mean and she said tough. Then i asked what u won't even give me a clue, she said no and i then said alright and walked away.

I just want to know if this girl was just a total ***** or my approach was really really bad.
You're approach. This girl you never got passed that hook point. But here are a few things I noticed from the text.
- You tried for rapport so her autopilot response is to blow out the guy
- You reacted to her by trying to get the response you wanted
- You logically tried to convince her on something
- You were considered low value
- Weak Frame

Overall it was just a bad approach, next time tease her to make her open up.
 

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Randallpink83 said:
really???

I would think thats pretty pathetic. "Your loss... (Cause I'm the ****ing MAN!!!)"... I think any girl would be glad you're walking away after saying something like that.

looking arrogant and defensive is not DJ.
thats almost bragging and she'll think you're a jerk (in a bad way) lol
 
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