"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How could of i did this approach better?

rushing dude 123

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I usually approach women and they r pretty friendly, but this one ****ed up lol. I saw a girl at the bus stop and she had like two pieces of luggage, but i bottled it and then i went to my friends house and i left and saw she was still there, so i went up to her and asked if she isn't leaving london today and she smiled and said no. Then i asked her name (this is where it ****ed up lol) And she said why, i said its how strangers aquante with eachother and she replyed maybe i don't want to aqaunte myself with strangers and then i said ouch thats mean and she said tough. Then i asked what u won't even give me a clue, she said no and i then said alright and walked away.

I just want to know if this girl was just a total ***** or my approach was really really bad.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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okay shes a total b!tch...
though you should have used the word "people" instead of "strangers" like, "it's how people acquaint with each other" because look at what her next sentance would have been:

"maybe I don't want to acquant myself with people"
making her a social retard.

again, this girl is a total b!tch. if she wouldn't tell you something as trivial as her name, I think shes rude, antisocial and probably prude as hell, also someone who doesn't have a fun or good life at all.
 

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yes i heard u shouldn't say stranger, but its just what popped in my head. I think i should of said stuff like actually enquire why she had the luggage and what she was doing, before asking her name. This approach was probablly the most negative i got, but i am proud that i actually did the approach, seeing it has given me some more experience.

ps. thanks for the input grand.
 

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np man, just remember 1 thing -

"ouch thats mean" makes you sound pretty AFC.
"alright babe, your loss" then walk away, makes you sound like a DJ.
 

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
"alright babe, your loss" then walk away, makes you sound like a DJ.

really???

I would think thats pretty pathetic. "Your loss... (Cause I'm the ****ing MAN!!!)"... I think any girl would be glad you're walking away after saying something like that.

looking arrogant and defensive is not DJ.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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rushing dude 123 said:
I usually approach women and they r pretty friendly, but this one ****ed up lol. I saw a girl at the bus stop and she had like two pieces of luggage, but i bottled it and then i went to my friends house and i left and saw she was still there, so i went up to her and asked if she isn't leaving london today and she smiled and said no. Then i asked her name (this is where it ****ed up lol) And she said why, i said its how strangers aquante with eachother and she replyed maybe i don't want to aqaunte myself with strangers and then i said ouch thats mean and she said tough. Then i asked what u won't even give me a clue, she said no and i then said alright and walked away.

I just want to know if this girl was just a total ***** or my approach was really really bad.
You're approach. This girl you never got passed that hook point. But here are a few things I noticed from the text.
- You tried for rapport so her autopilot response is to blow out the guy
- You reacted to her by trying to get the response you wanted
- You logically tried to convince her on something
- You were considered low value
- Weak Frame

Overall it was just a bad approach, next time tease her to make her open up.
 

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Randallpink83 said:
really???

I would think thats pretty pathetic. "Your loss... (Cause I'm the ****ing MAN!!!)"... I think any girl would be glad you're walking away after saying something like that.

looking arrogant and defensive is not DJ.
thats almost bragging and she'll think you're a jerk (in a bad way) lol
 
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