How can you tell if your getting oneitis or are just excited about seeing a new girl?

[Kal0051]

Err, this sucks, started talking to this new girl and we'll be dating soon. Love talking to her, she's got the same perverted sense of humor as me so it's awesome to joke around with her. I've been acting sexual with her from the start, and it's gone over really well (we talk about having sex all the time). But the problem is that I've been thinking about her a lot. I don't know if I'm getting oneitis for this girl, or if I'm just excited. What do you think?

 

[horaholic]

At least you recognize it. Just watch yourself!

 

[KontrollerX]

The minute the thought enters your mind that says "I can't walk away from this chick even if she does something that to any other man would be a clear dealbreaker" is the minute you know you have oneitis.

Oneitis is either the mental obsession of unrequitted love or the inability to walk away from a bad relationship because you require the girl like a drug user requires a drug high.

Oneitis is to be dependent on another person for your happiness while to be a DJ is to be dependent only on yourself for your ultimate happiness which means you are happy and fulfilled whether you are alone or in a relationship.

To be able to both enjoy a girl's company tremendously yet be willing to walk away from her and any girl (no matter how hot she is) at any time should she become massively disrespectful is how you know you've matured and no longer suffer from the scourge of oneitis.

Oneitis generally cannot take root in a man that puts his happiness first before anything else.

When a relationship is no longer fun and becomes all work the intelligent DJ leaves the relationship while the AFC stays in the undesireable situation fearful of losing his one, fearful more of being alone than being unhappy.

 

[Kal0051]

well, I don't think I have oneitis but I feel unsure about whether or not it will happen. I guess I just don't want any AFC behavior to screw things up with this girl, it's been awhile since I've met a girl I clicked with this well.

 

[Maxtro]

Ah unrequited love how I hate it so. It's been a month of no contact and I still have it for that bitch

I believe you have oneitis when she's the first thing that pops into your mind as soon as you aren't focused on anything.

KontrollerX gives a good description of how it occurs. It is still very difficult to prevent if the man isn't completely strong. It also becomes harder to avoid the more time you spend with somebody.