How can you NOT take rejection personal?

[The Comeback Kid]

I'm on the "being ignored is worse than being outright rejected" bandwagon. The reason I feel this way is because being ignored shows that the girl doesn't care - at all. If she rejects you, then you have your answer, plain and simple. Being ignored means this girl, whether it's her problem or yours, doesn't even have the decency to say anything.

Now to the topic - how can I not take rejection so personally? Well, it's actually something I need to improve on. I'm too sensitive and I do take things personally. With dating, I have had personal rejections though. One girl said she'd rather not go to Sr. Prom than go with me. Another rejected me and told my high school I was a creep. Another tried to humiliate me in front of everyone.

Some of the posters have said it already, but the problem likely isn't you. It's her. Maybe she has issues. Maybe she overloaded her schedule of activities and is now regretting the lack of free time. Maybe she's not relationship material due to being too easy. Maybe she's a dimwit who would bore you to death on a date. Maybe she's just all about her. The point is, girls aren't perfect by any means. They have their problems, but so do we. You just need to find your perfect match.

So how does this make you stronger? It shows your game isn't perfect and that there is improvement to be sought. It's like watching tape if you're an athlete. You spot your miscues and correct them for the next time, which gives you a better chance to succeed.

My own personal problem is that when someone says I can't do something, I go into overdrive and will go above and beyond to prove them wrong. Imagine this girl says, "You're never going to succeed with women." You're going to be PISSED. Prove her wrong. However, this girl can't be an actual girl you know - use it as a symbol of something you want to overcome. When I was graduating high school, one of my college goals was to get a lot bigger at the gym. At the same time, people made fun of my scrawny frame. Everyday, I heard from many people about how I was so tiny, and they would openly laugh. Three years later, all of those people are keeping their mouths shut. In fact, I could point out how these people are now out of shape or just aren't as big (I don't do this though).

The point is, a rejection challenges you to overcome it. Go get 'em!

 

[horaholic]

I dont get rejected. Why? Because I dont ever take it as a rejection. You just might not be her type, she might be in a bad mood. her rejection might only be a shyt test that you need to pass to get your foot in the door. You should be having fun with your interaction, so if she rejects you, you can have fun with it too. I was hitting on a chick, and threw her my phone and told ehr to put in her info. I got my phone back and called it right there, and no answer, and no voice mail. I called her out, and her and our mutal friend started laughing and said to look at the number. She wrote 867-5309 as her number. I got huge laugh out of the deal, then she said she was dating someone. It didnt hurt one bit.

You need to have more fun in your game, and they wont even feel like rejections.

A rejection only means that she didnt see the real you. Thats all.