"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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and then start ignoring them? Nothing happened between this chick and I. I didn't become needy (texted her twice in a week) and now I'm being ignored. I say this because for the past two months, the longest she went without responding was six hours. It has been two
days.

Anyway, my point is, people don't respect other people's feelings now. Girls seem to be the worst, but I don't try to pick up guys so maybe guys are just as bad. Once an individual leaves the stranger stage of a relationship (which usually happens after being around a person one on one more than three times), ignoring him/her is just plain rude. Forget all the BS about letting a person want you more...it's just rude.

I'm tired of this bullsh*t. I wouldn't be upset if I met her at the bus stop and had coffee with her one time. We had fun together, had sex...and I did nothing to her to warrant being ignored.

People don't care about anyone else anymore. And when you do find a chick that loves you and has no ulterior motives...keep her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yes, that's not nice. Especially since it had been two months, seven dates, sex - sounds like it was going to get steady. At this point she is obligated to tell you if she wants to stop seeing you.

But it doesn't have to be that she is rude; she could simply be afraid. It can be scary in itself for a girl, sending a message to say she doesn't want to see you anymore, and she could also be afraid of what kind of answer you would give.
 
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AlmostThere! said:
and then start ignoring them? Nothing happened between this chick and I. I didn't become needy (texted her twice in a week) and now I'm being ignored. I say this because for the past two months, the longest she went without responding was six hours. It has been two
days.

Anyway, my point is, people don't respect other people's feelings now. Girls seem to be the worst, but I don't try to pick up guys so maybe guys are just as bad. Once an individual leaves the stranger stage of a relationship (which usually happens after being around a person one on one more than three times), ignoring him/her is just plain rude. Forget all the BS about letting a person want you more...it's just rude.

I'm tired of this bullsh*t. I wouldn't be upset if I met her at the bus stop and had coffee with her one time. We had fun together, had sex...and I did nothing to her to warrant being ignored.

People don't care about anyone else anymore. And when you do find a chick that loves you and has no ulterior motives...keep her.
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Two days??? give me a break. Look into the concept of 'give her the gift of missing you.'
 
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I didn't invite her out or anything...it was a text you'd text to someone you like. Still rude to ignore it.
 
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Oh wait, I missed the part about only two days. Don't worry about it!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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AlmostThere,

There are no fixed rules here. Texting a single 'I really enjoyed tonight' a few hours after a date can be A LOT more harmful than 4-5 playful over a week.

Are you sure she had no boyfriend or ex to start with, that she now might be with? If not, certainly she got worried about how things were developing which is farily common...

Best of luck.
 
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All I want is to have two or three girls I can call up and have fun with here and there. It seems like whenever I get close to having a chick past the BS initial stages of a relationship, I still fail.
 
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AlmostThere! said:
I didn't invite her out or anything...it was a text you'd text to someone you like. Still rude to ignore it.
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YEs it is rude on face value. However there may be a reason or a legit explanation.
However women sometimes send silence as the 'go away' message.

I would wait two more days and then try calling her. If she picks up, express your "amazement" that she went to radio silence. IF she does not P/u leave a VM asking her to call you back "soon". IF she does not respond put her on ignore permanently..
 
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Yeah this is rough man, and if you look at my previous post "Wierd Situation" you can see some similarities... Quick question ?

What was the last thing you texted her ??


I'd say text her something nice, neutral and non-needy and put the ball in her court. Girls can shut-off easy if they feel its OUR fault. That's what I learned from my situation, she felt like I was wrong and so she 'punished' me and put me on ignore... Once I came back nice she re-initated contact...

Put the ball in her court and she'll feel if she doesn't respond it will be HER fault this thing fell apart and if u mean ANYTHING at all to her, she won't let that happen she'll text you back. Casual and nice... sh|t man use the one i used

"If you're not smiling, think of me... smile before u go to sleep tonite :)"


If you still get the ignore, then something else is wrong like lack of interest or she's really busy with life or something deeper that's not easily fixable, but if you have a problem like mines (general ignoring of texts for blase reasons) what I said should work bro.... good luck

it's frustrating for sure



-Cod3r
 
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AlmostThere! said:
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And when you do find a chick that loves you and has no ulterior motives...keep her.
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Amen to that.

'Love the girl who holds the world in a paper cup, drink it up,
Love her and she'll bring you luck.

And if you find she helps your mind, buddy, take her home,
Don't you live alone, try to earn what lovers own. '
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AlmostThere! said:
All I want is to have two or three girls I can call up and have fun with here and there. It seems like whenever I get close to having a chick past the BS initial stages of a relationship, I still fail.
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I have a hard time reconciling this with your first post.

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People don't care about anyone else anymore. And when you do find a chick that loves you and has no ulterior motives...keep her.
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I will step out of bounds here... but it's usually sound advice to be very clear and conscious about your objectives.

First and foremost find if your current goal is scoring with a few girls or finding someone to go steady...
 
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