How can we tell if she's flirting because she's interested or just wants validation?

[tesla8520]

We know women flirt... they really love that..
They can be attracted to someone, but sometimes they flirt because they enjoy the attention and validation.
When the signs are obvious, the difference can be easy to spot. But what about when the flirting is subtle?

How can you tell whether she's genuinely interested in you or simply out for the attention?
Are we, as men, capable of telling that without directly asking her?

 

[HaleyBaron]

When she is flirting, it is both. And there is no way to tell how much is each unless she is hanging off your body without you doing a thing.

You are obviously in the camp of a guy that women don't just go up to and talk to, otherwise you would not care if they want validation or not. This is not a critique on you. I am only telling you how it is.

Now what do you do with this information? You learn that women always hold all the cards in situations involving gender dynamics. And you are always the one who is going to take the fall unless your looks or status is above everyone else in the context of the room or situation. When you see the reality, you stop trying to guess what women are thinking, and instead manipulate them to like you. Cause most women do not know what they want.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

When in doubt, pull it out



j/k you try touching her if you're together in person

 

[viking22]

Yeah try touching her or try kissing her at the end of a date. If she shows any signs of discomfort or reluctance then she's just a stroker.

Oh and a pro tip. Don't be fooled when a girl is very touchy feely. Women often do that to manipulate men.....it's called stroking...because it is something they can control and they know men respond to it. So it can be a false positive. The real test of interest is whether she enjoys being touched and kissed by you.

 

[nismo-4]

You could say calmly "If you want to take this further, set a concrete date and time." Or say "Are you into me for real or is this something you do with every guy in the room?"

I'm like any other guy that would say a woman who's interested and one who's an attention wh0re not only look the same, but dress and sound the same.

If she pulls away, you pull away further.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yeah try touching her or try kissing her at the end of a date. If she shows any signs of discomfort or reluctance then she's just a stroker.

Oh and a pro tip. Don't be fooled when a girl is very touchy feely. Women often do that to manipulate men.....it's called stroking...because it is something they can control and they know men respond to it. So it can be a false positive. The real test of interest is whether she enjoys being touched and kissed by you.

That's what the escalation ladder is for. If she's like that, touch the small of her back, let your touch linger on her arm, move closer, facilitate the accidental boob touch on the arm and see if she obliges, etc

 

[Tilex]

Nervous energy; this one is easy to notice.

Compliance tests

Non-Autistic chicks will smile a lot or stare at you for a long time.

Proximity tests