:crackup:EricInTheHouse said:I'm part of a cult of rednecks that watch Nascar and drink beer, farting into the cushions...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
:crackup:EricInTheHouse said:I'm part of a cult of rednecks that watch Nascar and drink beer, farting into the cushions...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think ordained just means appointed, so a congregation would have to appoint you. Surely they would ask if you believe in God before they appoint you minister, given that it is part of the job. I don't know what you mean by "deserve." A non-believer does not deserve to lead a belief-based organization. That is true for any group that advocates a cause. Hillary Clinton does not deserve to be the head of the NRA, but saying that about her is not a moral judgment, merely that she does not share the views of that group.azanon said:Let me ask you a theoretical question, Bible Belt, and give me a completely honest answer. Do you think its possible for me to go to school and become "an ordained minister"? If so, knowing what you do about me, do you think I would personally deserve to be referred to by such a designation? I guess since we're talking opinions here, you could say yes to that question, but you'd really have me scratching my head!
You will be surprised how many idiots are in Law School. ANYONE can be a lawyer. You don't even have to be good at math or science.Bible_Belt said:The DC advocate lawyers are no exception; I am only guessing, but I'd bet many of them have 160-180 IQs, and everyone I met I think would be happy to admit that they believe in the Bible literally. There are some intelligent Christians out there.
the OP is talking about specific *cults*. the majority of people don't consider the mainstream *religions* as cults.azanon said:Don't let me speak for you guys, but I'm certainly talking about cults (when I name any religion, i consider it a cult), and have been postulating why people believe them, including offering up some personal theories.
Since you made a request though, let me make one: If you don't have anything to add, would you kindly not post?![]()
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Since when have DJers been consistent with "the mainstream" people?Michele said:the OP is talking about specific *cults*. the majority of people don't consider the mainstream *religions* as cults.
As if the thread topic isn't a time bomb waiting to happen, and as if I'm the only one participating in a similar fashion. I'm not debating myself here.don't turn a simple thread into a bash.
"Idiot" carries negative connotation, and when referring to someone else as an idiot, it is clearly a personal attack. I haven't called or implied Christians are idiots. I certainly suggested that they might be low on wisdom, or that they draw (some) conclusions about their world using illogical or irrational means (such as with faith or hope).i don't recall what you been replying with, but at least you are "postulating why people believe them".
now on the other hand, most everyone else here is just trying to point out: "hey guys! i'm athiest! man those people are such idiots... i can't believe they believe in christianity".
C. You realizing that everyone has been enough on topic to not warrant any "assistance" from captain-save-a-thread.what's more useful, me telling people to keep the thread on topic or everyone else thinking their opinion matters when it's not relevant to the topic?
Again, if you have nothing to add, please don't post. So far, you've added nothing.at least my post attempts to move the thread forward and not have a bunch of spam that moves the topic nowhere.
TheHumanist said:So you say Christians low on wisdom and draw illogical and irrational conclusions. Still sounds pretty negative and insulting to a Christian.
Sure faith and hope is not rational, but the way you are typing it (even on the internet without the tone of voice still carry some kind of voice, and it sounds condesending). The way you word it still sound like you calling them "idiots" for lack of a better word.
BTW, wisdom connotatively and denotatively means understanding, experience, and insight. A person who is able to know how to act in situations involving shades of gray. Wise Christians can be plenty wise, it is the evangelical one who is not open to new ideas while being imposing and hostiles to others that is the problematic ones.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Michele said:the OP is talking about specific *cults*. the majority of people don't consider the mainstream *religions* as cults.
don't turn a simple thread into a bash.
i don't recall what you been replying with, but at least you are "postulating why people believe them".
now on the other hand, most everyone else here is just trying to point out: "hey guys! i'm athiest! man those people are such idiots... i can't believe they believe in christianity".
what's more useful, me telling people to keep the thread on topic or everyone else thinking their opinion matters when it's not relevant to the topic?
at least my post attempts to move the thread forward and not have a bunch of spam that moves the topic nowhere.
I think you're just too ahead of many of us. A great many of us, including myself, are at step one trying to figure out why intelligent people go for mainstream religions, much less cults.j-flex said:at least somebody that understands!!!!!!!!!!!
i can undestand why people believe in mainstream religions, but i cant understand why people believe in sects/cults.
this thread should be locked and started again with THIS in mind.
In practice in the real world, I'm essentially as diplomatic as backbreaker described here. But since this is the internet, ... truth is there's a certain level of intellectual respect that I could never give these people. I can like a Christian and I have many Christian friends. Heck, I like Bible Belt. But they're just going to be a rung lower on my virtual, intellectual pedestal than a freethinker. To me, a freethinker is someone who's completely broken free of the religious matrix. I have no choice but to respect these people the most.backbreaker said:If a christan 1) knows his religion and 2) doesn't try to give me the 32oz bat every time we meet, slugging me with "god will save you" and crap like that every other sentence, we will have no problem.
My mom is a devout christan.. reads the bible from cover to cover once a year. She reads anything she can find on christanity. And she believes it. That's fine! Good for her.
I read that same information, and I just DONT' believe it. difference of opinion, simple as that.
the three mainstream religions (islam, judiasm, christianity) go far back and intertwine to some degree.azanon said:I think you're just too ahead of many of us. A great many of us, including myself, are at step one trying to figure out why intelligent people go for mainstream religions, much less cults.
That what the disagreement is about from the beginning. Everyone (or so I believe) disagree with you not because of there can be intellegent religous people or wise or rational for when we point that you, you say we are missing the point, we see the point. At least to me, on the rung of the intellectual pedestal, I'm not going to knock down a notch for a belief. I'm not going to say they in the "religous matrix" which means they are in a prison they cannot see and we can see more.azanon said:In practice in the real world, I'm essentially as diplomatic as backbreaker described here. But since this is the internet, ... truth is there's a certain level of intellectual respect that I could never give these people. I can like a Christian and I have many Christian friends. Heck, I like Bible Belt. But they're just going to be a rung lower on my virtual, intellectual pedestal than a freethinker. To me, a freethinker is someone who's completely broken free of the religious matrix. I have no choice but to respect these people the most.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
boy that's the understatement of the year.Michele said:the three mainstream religions (islam, judiasm, christianity) go far back and intertwine to some degree.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.