You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Beyond recommending that you read some inner game material, I don't think anyone can answer that question for you. Your demons and issues are unique to you, and only you know the exact path to overcoming them.
You start living the good life, my friend
.I guess you're right, my demons are unique to me, but I would still need ways (if possible) to figure out exactly what they are and how to change that. I never did anything similar, so this is all new to me.Sean O said:Beyond recommending that you read some inner game material, I don't think anyone can answer that question for you. Your demons and issues are unique to you, and only you know the exact path to overcoming them.
You start living the good life, my friend