"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How can I stop smiling so much?

IBreatheSpears

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I think I smile too much. If I'm in a good mood, talking to somebody I like I'm pretty much constantly grinning and laughing. I'm sure it makes me seem happy, relaxed and friendly about 90% of the time, the only downside is it can look nervous or submissive while flirting. I just really find it hard to hide a smile or stifle a laugh -- even if I'm by myself. Does anyone have any tips? Can't find anything decent on the web.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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El Payaso

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Think of something sad or something that makes you angry.
 

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I think I smile too much. If I'm in a good mood, talking to somebody I like I'm pretty much constantly grinning and laughing. I'm sure it makes me seem happy, relaxed and friendly about 90% of the time, the only downside is it can look nervous or submissive while flirting. I just really find it hard to hide a smile or stifle a laugh -- even if I'm by myself. Does anyone have any tips? Can't find anything decent on the web.
Eat those salty licorice dutch candies. They aren't great so they may help you to bring the smile down
 

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Be aware. Knowing that you do it is this first step. After your consciously thinking about it make a mental effort to stop. However, you're probably just look too deep into it, as long as you're genuinely smiling because something warrants it, it probably doesn't matter all too much.
 

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Be aware. Knowing that you do it is this first step. After your consciously thinking about it make a mental effort to stop. However, you're probably just look too deep into it, as long as you're genuinely smiling because something warrants it, it probably doesn't matter all too much.
Personally I think it helps. That grim straight face isn't very attractive to ladies. Be charming, you probably smile all the time because you use charm a lot.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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IBreatheSpears

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Just to clarify, I don't want to smile much less, I just want to control it better so I can deliver deadpan repartees.

Personally I think it helps. That grim straight face isn't very attractive to ladies. Be charming, you probably smile all the time because you use charm a lot.
I like to do that blank-with-lips-slightly-parted expression (not with the Jayden Smith eyebrows though).
 

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Whenever that happens to me, I always just think of the time when my sister threw a phone at the back of my head when I was 9 years old (not a cellphone, I'm talking about those big bulky landlines) pretty much because I ignored her. My head was bleeding like crazy but I didn't go to the hospital. When my dad got home, he absolutely flipped **** on my sister, but also got mad at me and said "and you, this is your fault too" and then smacked me on my mouth causing the right side of my upper lip to swell.

That gets me cold to think about. It used to get me so furious before, but now the anger part of my brain is pretty much destroyed. I used to be so angry so often when I was younger that I think now the receptors in my brain responsible for feeling anger have shut down, similar to how drugs like heroin become less effective in making you feel euphoria, because they break down the reward pathway in the brain. Yeah, I was one angry kid once upon a time.....
 

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Transmute your urge to smile and laugh. Take control of your facial muscles. The smiling will most likely go to your eyes and people will see you as having sparkling eyes.
 

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imagine hillary clinton winning
 
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