"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I have a tough Physics exam tomorrow, and she had borrowed my car for a few hours for today. I wasn't an a..hole about it, didn't ask where she was, didn't bother her every second. It was the first time she borrowed it, and I was cool with it. This culture is intrinsically so selfish that she was delighted to see I was so carefree about it. She apologized and she thanked me more than once.

A good friend gave me a ride from school to home and there she was after a few hours... Had my car washed ( it's a new car and it's got its first wash), brought me Italian food from the best restaurant in town, made me coffee, fvcked me for a good 45 minutes (yes, blowing me as well) and she went to bed to let me work in peace.

... She matured over a period of months. This girl is 19 years old. She'll be 20 in a week. Oh yes, she's one of those "white American b!tches". How could she do this? God, she's not a Latina and she did all that, can you believe it?..

Some American guys run here to report every nice gesture from foreign women, so I felt like I needed to do this just for once, for the sake of all those worthless American women.

I did this as an outsider to this culture, too, so maybe the problem is NOT solely with them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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damn bro. lol anytime my wife wants to drive my car I know she's going to buy something because she has a convertible and the only reason she drives my car is to fit **** in it.


i was always raised to not let anyone not on my insurance drive my car. it's not about trust or antyhing, my dad always told me "if that person isn't going to buy you a new car if they wreck it they don't need to drive it, because i'm sure as hell not"
 

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I'm guessing you're not a white guy. But that's a cool story. Good to hear some sane, non-crazy women are still around.
 

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I find that women who are under the age of 22 still have a good chunk of immaturity in them. On the plus side, they're still young enough to NOT be incredibly corrupted and spoiled by AFCs.

A woman this young can be a real keeper if she isn't flaky.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Boilermaker said:
How could she do this? God, she's not a Latina and she did all that, can you believe it?..

Hard to believe, but there are a few gems out there.

Good for you man! :up:
 

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Anytime someone tries to paint with such broad strokes as to categorize an entire race or nationality as 'good' or 'bad' take whatever they're saying with a grain of salt.

The whole foreign women = success fallacy is only going end up in some disgruntled realization that women are women the world around. Yeah, there are some cultural differences but there isnt one woman on this planet who will suck your c0ck, cook all your meals, do your laundry, not have a career, never talk back to you, never disagree or pick a fight, or tolerate being ignored; all in one package.
 

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Colossus said:
Anytime someone tries to paint with such broad strokes as to categorize an entire race or nationality as 'good' or 'bad' take whatever they're saying with a grain of salt.

The whole foreign women = success fallacy is only going end up in some disgruntled realization that women are women the world around. Yeah, there are some cultural differences but there isnt one woman on this planet who will suck your c0ck, cook all your meals, do your laundry, not have a career, never talk back to you, never disagree or pick a fight, or tolerate being ignored; all in one package.
100%

There's no better way to make yourself sound dumb, disgruntled, hurt, or angry than to take a group and make broad stereotypes about them.

"American women are blah blah blah"...no, that's not because she's American...it's because you date sh*tty broads.

I've dated women from all over the place, and while there have been good ones and bad ones, I would say that it's more based on the individual than the race/country/culture.

But back to the original poster: That's great, man. Sounds like a keeper.
 

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if somethign were to ever happen to my wife, which i pray never does, but if it did, i would not date a woman over 24-25 years old. hopefully closer to 20 honestly. the younger the better.

young women love playing house too. you catch one fresh out of high school that has not been tainted by the club scene yet, youc an do some good things.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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young women love playing house too. you catch one fresh out of high school that has not been tainted by the club scene yet, youc an do some good things.
The only problem with this is that if you have any sort of long term thoughts with her, most 20 year old girls are going to want to go through some sort of experimentation phase. If they settle down in their early twenties, that's a loooonnng life ahead of them not to be bored or tempted to try something in another direction.

Of course if you're just banging them, that's fine.
 

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zekko said:
The only problem with this is that if you have any sort of long term thoughts with her, most 20 year old girls are going to want to go through some sort of experimentation phase. If they settle down in their early twenties, that's a loooonnng life ahead of them not to be bored or tempted to try something in another direction.

Of course if you're just banging them, that's fine.
Totally agree.

Hell, I wouldn't even want to settle down with a chick who hasn't gone through an experimental phase. Otherwise, I'll just look at her like some over-sheltered moron who isn't curious about the world.

Go out, get a life, get into some trouble, and if you make to the other side with your sanity in tact, then we'll talk about settling down.
 

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zekko said:
The only problem with this is that if you have any sort of long term thoughts with her, most 20 year old girls are going to want to go through some sort of experimentation phase. If they settle down in their early twenties, that's a loooonnng life ahead of them not to be bored or tempted to try something in another direction.

Of course if you're just banging them, that's fine.
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well hell how is that any different than a 35 year old lol?

get a 20 year old, let her settle down for, marry her for 6 or so years, she goes out and "experiments", leave her, replace with 20 year old, rinse, wash repeat lol.

I personally think the experiment phase is overrated. if the guy has his **** in order the girl isn't going anywhere regardless of age, and if she was, it's the type of thing you can spot early on in a relationship (screening, buffering). Hell i wish my oneitis went through an experiment phase lol.
 

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]well hell how is that any different than a 35 year old lol?
A 20 year old has a lot of guys her age lusting after her, although many will be afraid to approach her. By 24, she's reached her peak attractiveness, she's learned what makeup enhances her the most, what kind of clothes she looks best in, she's started to hang out in bars.

She has all kinds of interesting guys AMOGing each other to take her out. She's realized she hold a lot of sexual power. She gets curious about a lot of these guys, and if she's locked down in a LTR, she's going to be wondering what she's missing.

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I personally think the experiment phase is overrated. if the guy has his **** in order the girl isn't going anywhere regardless of age
The guy needs his experimentation phase too.

As for the girl, well I'm sure if she has managed to hook up with the great Backbreaker, her eye won't wander. But for a lot of lesser men, that may not hold true.
:)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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^^^^
Good point. When a girlfriend of mine had to borrow my car a few years ago, I made her literally sign waivers and indemnify me in case she ran some douche over. LOL But then again, she's still (one of) my girlfriend(s) several years later.
 

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Hey guys thanks for the feedback.

Collossus I totally agree with you. Minus my smug attitude - that's exactly what I tried to convey with this post, and a little bit of sharing and bragging I'll admit :p I wanted to share this as data, because the converse examples are so diligently driven here.

Espi, thanks for the good wishes, I think I am happy at the moment. Of course, Zarky's and LarryW's comments are duly noted. I might be bored, in fact I still want all the other attractive women around me. There's one student of mine ( I am TA'ing a class), and she's just unbelievably attractive. And we end up being alone in that little TA room upstairs in EE, what a coincidence :) I know it's trouble, but I have to do something about it.


Anyway, wanted to give you an update. Cheers guys.

PS. I am white, I just didn't grow up in America.
 

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Boilermaker said:
Hey guys thanks for the feedback.

Collossus I totally agree with you. Minus my smug attitude - that's exactly what I tried to convey with this post, and a little bit of sharing and bragging I'll admit :p I wanted to share this as data, because the converse examples are so diligently driven here.

Espi, thanks for the good wishes, I think I am happy at the moment. Of course, Zarky's and LarryW's comments are duly noted. I might be bored, in fact I still want all the other attractive women around me. There's one student of mine ( I am TA'ing a class), and she's just unbelievably attractive. And we end up being alone in that little TA room upstairs in EE, what a coincidence :) I know it's trouble, but I have to do something about it.


Anyway, wanted to give you an update. Cheers guys.

PS. I am white, I just didn't grow up in America.
The point of my post was that they are always great in the beginning. But it hardly ever lasts.
 

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This started in July.

Still running fresh.

Not to disagree with your basic point, though.
 

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This started in July.

Still running fresh.

Not to disagree with your basic point, though.

I don't really care. I'm on the American women SUCK bandwagon. In fact I think they suck so bad I found a hot latina and got married last April. She is a great wife. Every day she acts like your girl and I don't think it will ever change.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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