"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How can I handle this

to_shy

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Hello,

First I want to say I liked reading your articles!

But I have a problem.

A month ago, I met this girl. She is 21 ( I'm 23 ), she is smart, average
looking and single.
In the beginning I liked her as a regular friend. But since a week or
something I realize that
there is more than just friendship ( from my site ).

Every day of this week I keep saying to myself that I'm going to tell her.
But when the big day arrived ( yesterday ) I haven't told her anything. I
think I'm to shy to tell her.

We have talked several hours, I gave her some compliments about the way she
was dressed and
behaved.
I have no problem talking with her, I'm also not nerveus, when I arrived and
left, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and a hug!
But the problem is that I don't think she feels the same for me than I do
for her. Could you gave me some advice what I can do to tell this to her.
Because I'm to afraid of telling it to her directly.


Thank you very much

Sincerely


ps: I'm sorry for the spelling and grammar errors, English isn't my mother
language.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Desdinova

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Every day of this week I keep saying to myself that I'm going to tell her.
Tell her what? If you're thinking about barfing your feelings into her ear, she's just going to back off.

But the problem is that I don't think she feels the same for me than I do
for her.
You're probably right, and nothing you tell her is going to make her feel a sudden attraction toward you.

You need to read the DJ Bible. There's a link in the top right hand of your screen.
 

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Originally posted by to_shy
have no problem talking with her, I'm also not nerveus, when I arrived and
left, I gave her a kiss on the cheek and a hug!
We really need one of those smilies that pukes up everywhere. Oh wait, here's one.....

:mad:
 

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Don't tell her anything. Tell her (don't ask) to join you for some drinks one night. (For the first time, say something like "A few of us are going out tonight, you should join us for some drinks." Don't ask her out more than two days in advance. A Thursday night is perfect since she probably doesn't have anything better to do. If you can't go out on Thursday cuz of work or whatever, tough ****. Go to work hungover. If you have friends you can go out with, even better, cuz you'll be relaxed, and they'll talk to her too.

At the bar, say you start a game of pool. It's better if it's you and her against two other people, cuz you'll have so many more openings. Talk ****, make fun of her, if she makes a bad shot, tell her you're never going to have her as a teammate again. It doesn't matter whether or not you're a good shot either.

If you're playing against her, and you're winning, tell her she can't play and she should learn from you. If she's winning, say it's beginner's luck and you want a rematch. Then cheat and throw your balls in the hole. Then when she calls you on it, say something about putting balls in the hole.

Don't spend the whole night next to her. Talk to your friends or other people. If some random douchebag is hitting on her, let him; do your own thing in the meantime. When he leaves, go up to her and make fun of the guy that was just there.

Read the ****ing Bible, read fastseduction.com, and go buy David DeAngelo's Double Your Dating book.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LOL

She already Knows...... Period

Dont do anything Until you read the DJBible and internalise it... or risk yourself and screw it up

My take like Doclove says...
Love a woman with your actions not your words...
 
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