"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How can I get some color safely?

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Hey Guys,

I wanted to know how to get a tan safely. And I don't want to look like a hot dog, but rather gain a little color. Should I use a low-spf sunblock lotion and stay outside for a while? What can I do without getting skin cancer? Thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sit in the sun.
 
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spf 8 should be fine, if you have sensitive skin, then spf 16...stay outside for an hour or two...2-3 times a week
 

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The safest way to tan is with a high quality tanning bed (so don't go to the $3 tan place). There are two types of UV rays and one is much more harmful than the other. Tanning beds can actually reduce the amount of the more harmful ray so you're getting less than if you went out into the sun.

If you want to go out into the sun to tan, don't use sunblock. "Tanning lotion" with low SPF is a marketing ploy. You're much better off sitting in the sun for 10 to 30 minutes without sunblock (depending on your sensitivity), and then going inside or putting on 35+ SPF.

Tan every 2 or 3 days until you get the color you want, then go once a week to maintain it.

Do a search on this forum. There's already lots of tanning advice.
 

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Do you have any evidence that this is a safe method, shiftkey? I thought that you should never expose yourself for a long period of time without sunblock.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Shiftkey, are you kidding? First off, there is UV A, B, and C. The one that is blocked off the most, and is the most harmful to us, is UV C. UV C is what is used in ALL tanning beds, and seeing as how its direct exposure, it messes you up. Sun tanning is fine if you use sunscreen, read about it
 

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I thought that you should never expose yourself for a long period of time without sunblock.
ANY sun is dangerous. Tanning is dangerous. And wearing sunblock is counter productive to tanning. You get tanned from the sun; where is the logic in blocking it if you want a tan? I don't consider 10 to 30 minutes a long period of time.

I'm not going to write an essay on it - I've written plenty on it in past posts if you want to do a search. If you don't want to believe me, fine. I'm not going to spend hours putting together a collection of biased links when some other jackass will do the same thing to counter my links. There's plenty of opinion on both sides, and all of it is funded by some company.

Rocko, I've read plenty. I'm not talking out of my ass.
 

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I like tanning beds because I hate tan lines. So do my ladies. They're very fond of my overall color ;)
 

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Rocko said:
Shiftkey, are you kidding? First off, there is UV A, B, and C. The one that is blocked off the most, and is the most harmful to us, is UV C. UV C is what is used in ALL tanning beds, and seeing as how its direct exposure, it messes you up. Sun tanning is fine if you use sunscreen, read about it
UVC has almost no effect on skin whatsoever. UVA is the most harmful of the types of radiation because it is the most significant factor in the development of melanoma.
 

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Tanning beds (high quality) are probably the safest way to go, if you've got the money. Been going every now and then to keep my color nice and girls have been giving me compliments left and right. The key is don't go too drastic, cause thats when they know you've been tanning :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How much usually does a high quiality tanning bed place charge?
 

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Ashley Lynns charges 20 bucks/ month for unlimited tanning. As long as you don't put in a 30 minute session (then they charge like a dollar)

I was going for about 20 minutes before i got put on house arrest.
 

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Go to a $2 place just to look around. Take note of how it's decorated, talk to the person at the front desk and see how informed they are. Ask what kind of beds they have. Then go to a tanning place that doesn't advertize it's prices in neon lights and see the difference. Generally you can tell the quality of the place by how it's kept, how well trained the employees are, and whether or not they feature different kinds of beds. When I used to tan I went to a place with about 6 different types of fancy beds (and stand ups). The staff could tell me which beds had the least harmful UV, and at exactly what percentages - a minimum wage teenager at a $2 place wouldn't give a sh1t. The store was well decorated, and the rooms were actual rooms and not just cubicles.

It was over a year ago, but I think I was paying around 30 a month for unlimited for the middle quality beds they offered. I'm sure prices vary from place to place, and in different cities.
 

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Whats with all the sun beds and sh!t? I always loved to go out and stay without a shirt, and so I got a nice color every year.

Also all my friends and family do the same thing and I never heard of someone getting skin cancer. I think all this stuff is made up by the people that make lotions and sh!t.

Anyways I wouldn't give up picnics and going for swims for anything in the world, because they are the most fun things to do, so instead of giving 30$ for sitting in a machine with blue light in it I'll better buy some drinks get a ball and go out in the nature and get a sexy natural tan.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Skin cancer is real, but the way everybody talks about it, its like it's an epedemic or something. How many people do you know have skin cancer? I know none. I know a lot of people that used to work in lawn service, spending up to 10 hours a day in the sun, 5-6 days a week. No skin cancer. Skin cancer is probably just as dependent on genetics as most other types of cancer. Lung Cancer seems to be the only cancer I know of that can be caused by something other than genetics.

I'm speaking on experimental probability and not theoretical, which is the most realistic way to go.
 

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Taviii said:
....and get a sexy natural tan.

That my friend, is why you will have your woman laughing when you bang her with your pale white ass and your dark tanned torso :woo:
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
Skin cancer is real, but the way everybody talks about it, its like it's an epedemic or something. How many people do you know have skin cancer? I know none. I know a lot of people that used to work in lawn service, spending up to 10 hours a day in the sun, 5-6 days a week. No skin cancer. Skin cancer is probably just as dependent on genetics as most other types of cancer. Lung Cancer seems to be the only cancer I know of that can be caused by something other than genetics.

I'm speaking on experimental probability and not theoretical, which is the most realistic way to go.
lmao, you mean anecdotal "evidence." If you think that just because YOU do not know people who have been diagnosed with skin cancer, and that's the "most realistic" evidence that it's not a risk, you're a fool.

I wouldn't be surprised if those people you know have never been to a doctor for a mole check to even see if they have skin cancer. Skin cancer is not like chicken pox - you cannot tell you have it until it's too late without a doctor.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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