"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How can I get more purpose behind my life?

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How can I get more purpose behind my life? I dont know if its the adderall that I take or what, but I feel like I have no real drive.

Like, I can't bring myself to work on this script I'm writing hardly anymore, and last semester I had such a hard time actually studying because it wasn't fun to do. Its like I don't have any discipline, like I'm this ultra pleasure seeker and that I always want to be feeling good 100% of the time and working doesn't make me feel good so I don't do it. Don't get me wrong, I have a pretty large social circle with a lot of friends and I get more than my fair share of girls, but when it comes time to actually be productive and not party/socialize/slack off, I have the hardest time forcing myself to do it. I'm heading back to college as a sophomore in the fall and I need to get this sorted out as soon as possible.

Can anyone relate to this or have any ways to kick myself a proverbial kick in the ass and start getting a work ethic?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Find something you really want to do, a passion or something, and do it.
Worked for me *shrugs*

The medicine might be reducing your drive by messing with your dopamine levels btw, I suggest asking your doctor about that.
 
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ADHD? The medicine can do that to you. Talk to the doc. It can cause a false sense of well being among other things. Maybe it's your underlying DX. Please go see the doc and talk to him about it.
 
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I'd say start working out and eating right. It's what did it for me, man.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alle_Gory said:
That's not a purpose...
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It can be! Dude might be bisexual. Gay men often dedicate their lives to working out and looking good. Many older married men support young good looking guys. So, being in good shape in essence is your life.
 
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Find something you like doing, and figure out how to get paid to do it.
 
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Alle_Gory said:
That's not a purpose...
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It will get him started. Are you going to answer his question, or just comment on my answer?
 
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Espi said:
Respectfully--please speak for yourself. Your values and beliefs aren't God. Your definition of purpose might not match another's definition, but that doesn't mean that you're right and that everyone else who happens to disagree is wrong.
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So, you're telling me that eating and going to the gym are the most fulfilling things for you?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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manish said:
you are forgetting some one named arnold schwarzenegger
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His purpose was not to eat and go to the gym. He was a bodybuiler. From what I know, he idolized Reg Parks and followed in his footsteps which is why they have similar physiques. Arnold took his lessons and surpassed him to become a champion in his sport. He decided to be the best, that's his purpose.

Fortress Maximus: Thanks for repping me down (3 months after you posted in this thread). How passive aggressive of you. Kind of sensitive aren't you?
 
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Brighty said:
How can I get more purpose behind my life? I dont know if its the adderall that I take or what, but I feel like I have no real drive.
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Those drugs have side effect like depression, suicide, etc. You better off smoking weed IMO.
 
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