"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How can I get more purpose behind my life?

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How can I get more purpose behind my life? I dont know if its the adderall that I take or what, but I feel like I have no real drive.

Like, I can't bring myself to work on this script I'm writing hardly anymore, and last semester I had such a hard time actually studying because it wasn't fun to do. Its like I don't have any discipline, like I'm this ultra pleasure seeker and that I always want to be feeling good 100% of the time and working doesn't make me feel good so I don't do it. Don't get me wrong, I have a pretty large social circle with a lot of friends and I get more than my fair share of girls, but when it comes time to actually be productive and not party/socialize/slack off, I have the hardest time forcing myself to do it. I'm heading back to college as a sophomore in the fall and I need to get this sorted out as soon as possible.

Can anyone relate to this or have any ways to kick myself a proverbial kick in the ass and start getting a work ethic?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Find something you really want to do, a passion or something, and do it.
Worked for me *shrugs*

The medicine might be reducing your drive by messing with your dopamine levels btw, I suggest asking your doctor about that.
 
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ADHD? The medicine can do that to you. Talk to the doc. It can cause a false sense of well being among other things. Maybe it's your underlying DX. Please go see the doc and talk to him about it.
 
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I'd say start working out and eating right. It's what did it for me, man.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alle_Gory said:
That's not a purpose...
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It can be! Dude might be bisexual. Gay men often dedicate their lives to working out and looking good. Many older married men support young good looking guys. So, being in good shape in essence is your life.
 
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Find something you like doing, and figure out how to get paid to do it.
 
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Alle_Gory said:
That's not a purpose...
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It will get him started. Are you going to answer his question, or just comment on my answer?
 
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Espi said:
Respectfully--please speak for yourself. Your values and beliefs aren't God. Your definition of purpose might not match another's definition, but that doesn't mean that you're right and that everyone else who happens to disagree is wrong.
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So, you're telling me that eating and going to the gym are the most fulfilling things for you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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manish said:
you are forgetting some one named arnold schwarzenegger
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His purpose was not to eat and go to the gym. He was a bodybuiler. From what I know, he idolized Reg Parks and followed in his footsteps which is why they have similar physiques. Arnold took his lessons and surpassed him to become a champion in his sport. He decided to be the best, that's his purpose.

Fortress Maximus: Thanks for repping me down (3 months after you posted in this thread). How passive aggressive of you. Kind of sensitive aren't you?
 
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Brighty said:
How can I get more purpose behind my life? I dont know if its the adderall that I take or what, but I feel like I have no real drive.
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Those drugs have side effect like depression, suicide, etc. You better off smoking weed IMO.
 
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