"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How can I be more flirty and sweet talk?
- Thread starter Pureafc
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
bluemanson
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what i learnt in management is that when 2 people are talking and the one that does most of the talking will always think that the conversation went well and it does work
so just let her talk bout her day and use c&f on whatever she says
LuisGarcia10
Senior Don Juan
My job is in telesales and the one thing we're always told is to try and aim for a 70/30 rule, ie the client does 70% of the talking and you do the other 30%, basically you use your 30% to steer the conversation, ie by asking her questions etc and let her do the rest. Obviously I'm not suggesting you interview the girl, one would hope if she isn't completely self obsessed that she'll want to hear a bit about yourself as well, but as a rule aim for around 70/30, women love to talk about themselves.
Pureafc said:So what questions can I ask in order for her to talk about herself?
Dont talk in question form, talk in statement form. GOLDEN RULE.
For example instead of saying:
Whats your favourite film?
Say:
I love that film superman, louis and superman were so hot together.
This forces her to talk about her own feelings instead of just saying "i like toy story"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
So instead of starting repeated threads on how to do well in a conversation with women and not getting started with anything forever, get the inner game right, go field-test with advices on the forum & DJ Bible, then tell us how it went so we can help you better.