"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How 'bout, Tango?

Poonani Maker

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As you know, this is highly sexualized dance, spawned from the brothels of Buenos Aires, Argentina long ago.

I've recently taken Tango dance lessons from 3 seperate instructors. My latest instructor is Very giving of her time and the class is dirt cheap compared to the others. It was quite a treat to learn Tango from her, and I learn A LOT on how to lead a woman, as Tango is heavily reliant on the Man leading the entire dance. The woman totally follows in this dance. It's a Very masculine dance. I highly recommend learning it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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speakeasy

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I was in Buenos Aires a few months ago and considered taking a tango lesson but didn't. Kinda regret it. My dance skills suck.
 

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r0cky said:
I've never been to a place where they played tango music. Seems like a skills i would never put to use.
Exactly. I think that's the reason I didn't bother to learn it. Where are you going to use it outside of Argentina and Uruguay? Not like they have tango clubs here in L.A. Though it might be a cool thing in your arsenal to have. Get a girl back in your apartment after a fun night, put on a tango song and show her some moves. She'd probably then think you're this exotic, fun, worldly guy to know something like that and be quite impressed. Hell, I guess I should've learned tango then, dammit...
 

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I think it's a pretty cool skill to have. It's also an instant interest boost for women. I might try taking lessons someday though I like working out more.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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