"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well, I was supposed to go to the movies today with this girl who I really like. She was feeling pretty ****ty, had a headache and such, and she was driving over to pick me up when she decided she was feeling too sick to see a movie (she has her license and I don't). She continued on to my house, told me she couldn't come, and then she came in and we sat around on my couch and talked for an hour or so. I got a little kino over the course of the time she was there: I hugged her, put my arm around her a few times, etc, but I've already done all that stuff with her so it was nothing special. Then she left. Should I have made a move? I can kid myself and say I didn't because she was sick, but I know that's not the real reason. The real reason is that I was an AFC today. It just felt like I shouldn't be trying to make a move on a sick girl, and that I should be trying to make her feel better.

On another note, is her wearing lipstick a good sign? I've never had any girl wear lipstick to see a movie with me, and she did today, so I thought it was pretty weird.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Sean O

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I'm no expert, but it seems to me that she would've just flat-out canceled if she wasn't interested in you. The fact that you used kino and she didn't resist is also a sign that she's interested. You probably should've made a move.

Or, look at it like this: did you, at any point, hear a little voice in the back of your head say "make a move, damnit!", but choose to ignore it for some reason? If you did, you probably missed a chance to make a move.
 

NYC Dude

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She spent an hour at your house on your couch and you didn't make a move? Why? You should have made a move, no doubt. And lipstick means nothing, it's something every girl has and puts on.
 
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dont worry about it...she was sick, and natrually if you made a move, she would have associated sickness with your relationship, more kino would have been desirable, but wait till she gets better.
 

shydude

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I think she faked about being sick and all! She did came to ur house!!!!!! WHY? So u could advance to the next level!!! U really should have made out.. OK here are the reasons why u should have gone further:

She came to ur house!!
She probably faked about being sick! And if she really was sick she would come to ur house!
She didnt resist u touching her!
She was ON THE DAM COUCH!! UR COUCH
U were thinking about that!!

AND MANY MORE!!!

Next time use the chance, and u wont regret it!! Girls like sex, even though they say they dont!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr_rogers

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Although it's possible that she was just faking, I doubt it. It doesn't feel right...

Overall, it's probably best that you didn't make a move, because I doubt she'd be overly receptive to anything like that when she's feeling like crap. I know that when I've got a bad headache I'm not into much other than feeling better...
 

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Dude I think she likes you. dude you atleast gave her a hug so thats really good. remember learn from everyday.
 
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