"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, I was supposed to go to the movies today with this girl who I really like. She was feeling pretty ****ty, had a headache and such, and she was driving over to pick me up when she decided she was feeling too sick to see a movie (she has her license and I don't). She continued on to my house, told me she couldn't come, and then she came in and we sat around on my couch and talked for an hour or so. I got a little kino over the course of the time she was there: I hugged her, put my arm around her a few times, etc, but I've already done all that stuff with her so it was nothing special. Then she left. Should I have made a move? I can kid myself and say I didn't because she was sick, but I know that's not the real reason. The real reason is that I was an AFC today. It just felt like I shouldn't be trying to make a move on a sick girl, and that I should be trying to make her feel better.

On another note, is her wearing lipstick a good sign? I've never had any girl wear lipstick to see a movie with me, and she did today, so I thought it was pretty weird.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sean O

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I'm no expert, but it seems to me that she would've just flat-out canceled if she wasn't interested in you. The fact that you used kino and she didn't resist is also a sign that she's interested. You probably should've made a move.

Or, look at it like this: did you, at any point, hear a little voice in the back of your head say "make a move, damnit!", but choose to ignore it for some reason? If you did, you probably missed a chance to make a move.
 

NYC Dude

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She spent an hour at your house on your couch and you didn't make a move? Why? You should have made a move, no doubt. And lipstick means nothing, it's something every girl has and puts on.
 
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dont worry about it...she was sick, and natrually if you made a move, she would have associated sickness with your relationship, more kino would have been desirable, but wait till she gets better.
 

shydude

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I think she faked about being sick and all! She did came to ur house!!!!!! WHY? So u could advance to the next level!!! U really should have made out.. OK here are the reasons why u should have gone further:

She came to ur house!!
She probably faked about being sick! And if she really was sick she would come to ur house!
She didnt resist u touching her!
She was ON THE DAM COUCH!! UR COUCH
U were thinking about that!!

AND MANY MORE!!!

Next time use the chance, and u wont regret it!! Girls like sex, even though they say they dont!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Mr_rogers

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Although it's possible that she was just faking, I doubt it. It doesn't feel right...

Overall, it's probably best that you didn't make a move, because I doubt she'd be overly receptive to anything like that when she's feeling like crap. I know that when I've got a bad headache I'm not into much other than feeling better...
 

jackie_legs

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Dude I think she likes you. dude you atleast gave her a hug so thats really good. remember learn from everyday.
 
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