How are any of you not resentful?

[JonF]

I'll admit it. I AFC'ed it for a bit. But reading some of the material on this site has given me new perspective, and now that my eyes are open i'm just angry. The problem is that now that i'm cognizant of just how duplicitous, lying, and Fvcked up girls can be, my resentment is aimed at them. I don't want to be pissed off, but there is just too much BS. Is this something everyone has experienced for at least some time? Getting more upset the more aware you become.

 

[thatfeel]

"The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable."

 

[Bokanovsky]

I'll admit it. I AFC'ed it for a bit. But reading some of the material on this site has given me new perspective, and now that my eyes are open i'm just angry. The problem is that now that i'm cognizant of just how duplicitous, lying, and Fvcked up girls can be, my resentment is aimed at them. I don't want to be pissed off, but there is just too much BS. Is this something everyone has experienced for at least some time? Getting more upset the more aware you become.

You have to understand that it's not just women. Men can be very f*cked up too, but in different ways. Most people are selfish...that's just human nature. Your typical AFC is putting women on a pedestal not because he is genuinely a "nice guy" but because he mistakenly believes that this is the way he has to act to get laid. Don't get too worked up over the "immorality" of most modern women. Focus on getting what you want from these women (but never be blind to their BS).

 

[Jariel]

You know what I've discovered...too many guys on this site get sucked up in the victim mentality. They blame others (women) instead of looking at themselves and their choices. They try to form relationships with slvts, ignore multiple red flags, then generalise all women as unfaithful. Many of the guys here also act like divas and throw tantrums or play games when they're not getting the attention they seek...and then they blame women for having the confidence to walk away.

What you have to consider is that men who are in faithful and secure relationships or happily married do not come to a site like this. This is a site for men who have been rejected, dumped, hurt by women, and so the overall consensus is obviously going to be negative and paints a very bitter view of women.

There are a lot of reasons we get burnt by women, but passing blame does not help you evolve. It just keeps you feeling bitter...and that bitterness will drive women away and you get stuck in a cycle.

I've done a lot of reflecting on this and until recently I had it in my mind that many of my exes and girls I dated had screwed me over, cheated and were vile human beings...and yet when I really thought about it, none of that was true. In fact, I look back now and I see that it was my fault most of my relationships broke down.

In the instances when women walked over me and treated me like a pushover...again, that's my fault for allowing them to do that. Most nice guys are only nice because they expect something in return, and when they don't get it, they sink into this bitter and resentful attitude.

Look man, it's natural to feel bitter when you're hurt. This is what happens to all of us. Our egos are bruised, our feelings are hurt, and we get angry at whoever caused it and let our emotions cloud our judgement.

Try not to let yourself get pulled down into that negative spiral because it's very difficult to get out of...just look around this forum.

 

[happyDJ]

Only upset because I didn't understand it better sooner.
The world is as it is. Good, bad, society rules and repression, childhood traumas, needy and nasty people. Be glad you understand the world better, learn to accept it. If you don't accept it and you don't forgive, you haven't understood it enough. Everyone's clock is ticking. Most people are naturally lazy, mentally, emotionally and physically, and are naturally afraid, and this leads to everything else.

 

[AAAgent]

I feel the same way. Girls can either tell by my attitude i really have no interest in getting to know them anymore or they don't care and when i don't meet up with them, they sort of can see it coming (my opinion). This is obviously due to being unplugged from the matrix and seeing first hand how despicable, shameful, etc. women can be. But you know what? Men are that way too. So it's all a matter of filtering, screening, and having standards and sticking to them. If that sounds like a lot of work to you, then you shouldn't be complaining. Sometimes finding a girl that actually meets your standards takes months to years but it sure as h3ll beats spending time with a girl you can't stand.

I'm going through a phase where i have no interest in having a relationship with a woman and therefore i'll let time heal my bitterness while i focus on better my career, health, and wealth.

 

[PlayHer Man]

It gets better. Learning harsh realities about life always sting.. at first. Then you get over it.

Its like everything else:

-Santa is fake
-Your dog dies

At first its upsetting and painful. Then you get over it and just accept it.

Learning the truth about women has ultimately made me a much happier person. Its very liberating and freeing. You feel less overall pressure and urgency in your life. You become very relaxed around women because you don't give a sh!t what they think and you know all their games. They have no power over you above the waste. Beta fags are in awe of you and can't grasp how you have so much confidence. I love it.

I've never felt more free and masculine. There is a lot of power in knowing the truth.

 

[Driggs]

I would be resentful but the fact is they can't do otherwise, it is biological programming. If anything, they are the ones who buy into princess delusions that are never going to come to fruition.

Another even more disturbing group is reddit.com/r/theredpill. A lot of the stuff there is not so focused on dating and relationships but the ****ed up state of women.

 

[Groverz]

You know what I've discovered...too many guys on this site get sucked up in the victim mentality. They blame others (women) instead of looking at themselves and their choices. They try to form relationships with slvts, ignore multiple red flags, then generalise all women as unfaithful. Many of the guys here also act like divas and throw tantrums or play games when they're not getting the attention they seek...and then they blame women for having the confidence to walk away.

What you have to consider is that men who are in faithful and secure relationships or happily married do not come to a site like this. This is a site for men who have been rejected, dumped, hurt by women, and so the overall consensus is obviously going to be negative and paints a very bitter view of women.

There are a lot of reasons we get burnt by women, but passing blame does not help you evolve. It just keeps you feeling bitter...and that bitterness will drive women away and you get stuck in a cycle.

I've done a lot of reflecting on this and until recently I had it in my mind that many of my exes and girls I dated had screwed me over, cheated and were vile human beings...and yet when I really thought about it, none of that was true. In fact, I look back now and I see that it was my fault most of my relationships broke down.

In the instances when women walked over me and treated me like a pushover...again, that's my fault for allowing them to do that. Most nice guys are only nice because they expect something in return, and when they don't get it, they sink into this bitter and resentful attitude.

Look man, it's natural to feel bitter when you're hurt. This is what happens to all of us. Our egos are bruised, our feelings are hurt, and we get angry at whoever caused it and let our emotions cloud our judgement.

Try not to let yourself get pulled down into that negative spiral because it's very difficult to get out of...just look around this forum.

What he said. I find most of it was my issues, I knew of this site and used it well before I met my last ex. I was in a spot in my life when I did not NEED anyone, but having someone made it so much better. Then I feel into the AFC and started to need her, also was having a hard time with some life issues. I do resent her a bit for not communicating very well with me, she would hold on to things that made her upset and over think them until they blew up in her head. I really wish girls would never expect a guy to figure things on their own, just tell it! Open and honest communication.

I do resent that when I was down on the ground in life reaching up for a hand she stomped on my face. But I was the one that feel to the ground on my own actions, so I guess I should not expect someone to have to help me ass up, I am a MAN, I get my own ass up.

 

[JonF]

It gets better. Learning harsh realities about life always sting.. at first. Then you get over it.

Its like everything else:

-Santa is fake
-Your dog dies

At first its upsetting and painful. Then you get over it and just accept it.

Learning the truth about women has ultimately made me a much happier person. Its very liberating and freeing. You feel less overall pressure and urgency in your life. You become very relaxed around women because you don't give a sh!t what they think and you know all their games. They have no power over you above the waste. Beta fags are in awe of you and can't grasp how you have so much confidence. I love it.

I've never felt more free and masculine. There is a lot of power in knowing the truth.

DJbible worthy!

 

[Lotus Effect]

OP. There is one thing I can tell you for sure.

The ex left you, she cheated on you and treated you like you never ever existed. That's normal... It has happened to everyone, not only in this forum, everyone in the world. Some take the punches better then others. (I know I'm hurting, and lost, and crying... But hey, that's just me )

If right now, when you are heartbroken, you try to figure and understand the true nature of women, you will only get bitter, resenteful and downright misogynist.

You will know a lot about women behaviour, but at the end of the day, you will be jerking off in your room. There is no use in trying to get the full picture right now. You will be a master psycotheraphist at best. 'Cause knowing that kind of sh*t WILL NOT GET YOU LAID! Not right now at least

Right now you should focus on yourself, understand the rules of the game and play it. When you are at decent level you go deep down in women psychology, so you can get the full picture and use it on your behalf. Just accept how things are, and use it in your favor that they are so easily influenciable.

Do that and be on the other end of the rope the next time around, be the guy f**king other dude's chick, or dump'em by the snap of a finger... Just don't feed this hate. I've feed it a tiny bit, and it became a monster. The only medicine is to go out there, and meet other chicks. They don't know you, some will be bit*hy, some you be very nice. Snap out of this virtual world for a while.

Now, on the other hand, if you want to became MRA, or MGTOW, that's the way to go. Just hate them for the animals they are and live a happy life without them...

That's not part of my plan, I can tell you that.

 

[happyDJ]

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.

And it's actually sad, the whole thing. Love, sex, dating, the pains. One should try to have fun in the meantime. How Love and Life are so different from the fvcking movies.
All the lost opportunities that so many people missed out on. Dying hungry and sick, in real wars, dead and raped friends and family. We're lucky for not having it. Try to appreciate what you have. Good (and non-naive) feelings and behaviour attract themselves. Do good, make people laugh. Learn, be open. These are the same problems we will be having in every age.

Do not give too much time to Anger.

 

[Darth]

How about...love your neighbor.

Women are not to be resented. They are to be loved.

Men who love women (and PEOPLE in general) will always win out over those who do not. True story.

 

[( . )( . )]

Amorality is not a dirty word.

You must accept women are empty vessels to be filled by men. Women don't say "word is bond" et al or gauge a persons worth with a handshake for a reason. Women never had to develop this skill set. The nature needed for teamwork, sacrifice, an eye for beauty, philosophy (civilization building) is and always will be the realm of men. Man is a monad, which means he's an island unto himself. Woman is a henid, she is substance without form. Or if your a religious man try to comprehend it by recognizing that man was created in God's image. A fun fact: Men knew all this for thousands of years. It's only the last five decades give or take we dropped the ball and forgot (with a little help).

Accept it, live it and love it.

 

[Bacious]

What you have to consider is that men who are in faithful and secure relationships or happily married do not come to a site like this. This is a site for men who have been rejected, dumped, hurt by women, and so the overall consensus is obviously going to be negative and paints a very bitter view of women.

This.

The very nature of websites like this is to help you become a geek in the field of womanising and relationships. For the most part only those that have had previous failings and shortcomings are going to be enticed here - you get a skewed view of woman since people are here because they are sick of female bs.

That's not to say that people haven't developed more mature opinions since first lurking/posting but you're still getting only a thin slice of all the thoughts men have.

 

[skinnyguy]

Everything is just in your head. If you can learn to get rid of the bad stuff, you'll be much more at ease.


Women are b*tches? It's in your head.

Women have it better than men? It's in your head.

You should be chasing after money and career. That will make you happier than bagging a girl from a club.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I'll admit it. I AFC'ed it for a bit. But reading some of the material on this site has given me new perspective, and now that my eyes are open i'm just angry. The problem is that now that i'm cognizant of just how duplicitous, lying, and Fvcked up girls can be, my resentment is aimed at them. I don't want to be pissed off, but there is just too much BS. Is this something everyone has experienced for at least some time? Getting more upset the more aware you become.

Just as there are the Five Stages of Grieving, there are stages that one goes through once he's been exposed to The Game. Among those stages are anger and bitterness. I would say that everybody on this site went through an "angry and bitter," it only natural when you figure out that what you where doing was wrong and you've been lied to all this time.

The thing is how are you going to feelings and you going to use them to make you a better person. Like Jariel said, ultimately the blame is us. Yeah women did some f*cked up things to me, but women didn't do anything to me that I didn't allow them to do.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Just as there are the Five Stages of Grieving, there are stages that one goes through once he's been exposed to The Game. Among those stages are anger and bitterness. I would say that everybody on this site went through an "angry and bitter," it only natural when you figure out that what you where doing was wrong and you've been lied to all this time.

The thing is how are you going to feelings and you going to use them to make you a better person. Like Jariel said, ultimately the blame is us. Yeah women did some f*cked up things to me, but women didn't do anything to me that I didn't allow them to do.

Nailed it.

 

[Renegade357]

I'm pretty annoyed at all the BS women have put me through. I now see things for how they really are. I see my mistakes and work every day to correct them. I feel free knowing the truth. My happiness is no longer dependent up upon the outcome of my interactions with the opposite sex. I guess you can call that indifference. A nice place to be.

 

[Rainman4707]

When successful people encounter failure upon failure they see
success around the corner.