"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How about a game of chess......... With God!!! (My theory of life)
- Thread starter God Of War
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
I'm half there with you. Life differs from chess in that it's active and if you stall for too long it will pass you by. In that way life is far more complex. I do however think that some people should take more time to think their options and moves over. Good Field Marshalls and Generals understand this in military strategics although they have a support staff in their ear giving them options and updates. Concider your actions and try to make deadlines in which you act. Strategize and conquer if you will. Play the game to come out ahead with the intentions of good things and don't give up.BluEyes said:Unlike chess, however...
Don't take 10 minutes to make a move!
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Although I see where you're coming from, I disagree with it. Being a chess player myself(PM me if any of you are as well), I know that it involves analyzation of a fixed position. Dating / Life, however...is NOT a fixed position. It's dynamic and ever-changing. If you sit there and analyze a move(in life) before making a decision, life and the situation that was originally presented will have left you in the dust.
I believe the best idea is to focus on playing the game, not winning the game. Winning will inherently come from playing the game, yet if you focus on winning, you will lose.
I do agree though, that Visualization is paramount to success at ANYTHING in life.
Sometimes instinct is the best action of course. You'll find yourself doing something then look back on that action and see how you instinctively set yourself up for the next couple of steps, but other times realize you don't have to rush into everything. I used the lincoln quote again "If someone gave me five hours to cut down a tree, I'd spend the first four sharpening my axe". Prepare and concider if you have the time. Only good things can come of this.